This thread is 6 years old now and the 14 year old youngster is now a 20 year old woman. Wonder if she ever did see it?

This is NOT a film for a 14 year old. Forget the sex scenes, which are explicit in the extreme, but the themes that are explored in Damage are (or should be) way beyond the understanding of a girl that age.

Definitely an adult movie. Damage does not exactly belong to a list that would include To Kill a Mockingbird and The Pianist. This being said, parental programmes such as "films to be watched by my daughter" will hardly prevent kids from also seeing Borat, The Real Cancun Sin City, V for Vendetta, and Damage.
I am not sure that teenagers will perceive that this is a brilliant illustration of a well-ordered life in desperate want of being destructed, but I am not sure that adults understand either. I certainly disagree that there is a problem to go beyond the superficial, semi-porn and obsessional, aspect of the movie.

ANyone who would allow their 14 year old to watch this semi-porn film is foolish.
Keep your children safe as much as possible. They'll be adults soon enough. There is NO REASON ON EARTH for a minor child (young teen) to even understand such a movie.
If they do understand a movie like thisyou have more problems than you realize.
STRICKLY AN ADULT MOVIE!!!!

Wow, umm, yes. I don't know what you allow your children to see and what you don't allow them to see (I'm not the judge of that), but I would think that the sex scenes are entirely too raunchy for a 14 year old to be watching. Plus, it's not as if the two characters are in love, so that could also possibly send the wrong message to a young teen. They're very impressionable at that age, and personally, I would wait a two or three years before letting my child watch such a movie. As for the material, you basically see EVERYTHING on Irons. Not kidding, plus the whole movie is cold and cruel. Perhaps it would be a good idea if you viewed the movie and then decided for yourself whether it's appropriate for your daughter to watch or not. Just a suggestion.

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Yes, definitely make her watch this, Closer, and Clockwork Orange. She will be scarred for life!!! Oh, and throw in Midnight Cowboy (Heh! Heh!)
I don't know, personally Shrek 2 really scares me to death. There is something truly ominous about computer generated donkeys

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Well, actually, the "mentally unstable" was ironic! All I wanted to say was what exactly you are saying; that we should allow children watch films with explicit sex scenes! To expand what I said, maybe children their own should decide whether or not they want to watch films with sex and/or violence! Because in some cases it depents solely on the personality of the person. One may be 7 and be able to watch horror films, and one may be 16 and be such a sensitive person that can't stand anything beyond romantic comedies!
About the "mentally unstable", it was just a sarcastic phrase to what some people believe it could happen to their child if they let him watch "Damage" etc.
Anyway, great film, I agree!
"Only the dead have seen the end of the war" - Plato

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Times have changed, people1 I don't understand why a 14 year old cann't watch a film with explicit sex scenes! What's wrong with this? I can assure you that it won't make her "mentally unstable"! All right, I partly understand why one must avoid exposing children or adolescents on explicit violence scenes (Although I don't agree), but sex? How can it harm them? I am 16 and have already watched "Damage" two times, once when I was 12 and yesterday and the first time I watched "Basic Instict" I was only 7!
"Only the dead have seen the end of the war" - Plato

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Show her this and Crash in a double feature.
European Cup Winners '99

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She's too young - and it's just an awful movie anyway. A far better (and less explicit) movie on the same theme might be Twice in a Lifetime.

i d rather show this than a war or violence movie or even just the news on telly
there s some explicit stuff ,but far from porn like

I have to agree 14 is too young.
No, I mentioned the bisque!

Yes it is far too explicit for a 14 year old. It was cut in the US because some of the sex was so strong while it was rated over 18 in the UK. The sex is explicit and quite graphic