And I have a fairly irreverent sense of humor, but the scene where the lady with the bag over her head is freaking out was vile to me.
I have a fairly irreverent sense of humor but I can't tell the difference between real life and movies so stuff on the screen makes me upset. Why didn't the cameraman do something to stop that one actor from putting the bag over the actresses head? Did they arrest that actor after they were done shooting that scene,

I absolutely agree with you. Also about NCFOM. I also just watched it once and never will again. It is just too cold for me and everybody seems to like it even more than Fargo. What I can't understand. Fargo, the show, on the other hand is good because it has more time for the characters. So we can attach to them , well, at least to some of them.

I'll try to explain why this movie works for me, and why I consider it a masterpiece, at least their masterpiece. It is
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in that 7 people are killed (6 of which are shown, and the 7th in her aftermath), and of course, you have the cold, snowy Minnesota/North Dakota snowscape. That said (and I generally don't like violent films), I found everything about the film compelling and didn't find their approach to the film to be cold.
To me, the parody of (mostly) Minnesota culture felt like they were having fun, as opposed to making fun of the people. This made a big difference. Usually, I don't laugh off violence, but the mix of the gravity of the situation and the somewhat implausible (yet understandable) unraveling of events just worked well. The music, cinematography, terrific screenplay and brilliant acting elevated this film into much more than it could have been.
Of the Coen Brothers movies I've seen, this is easily at the top, followed by The Big Lebowski. After that, they are hit-and-miss for me, or their films inspired mixed feelings. For example, No Country For Old Men did not work for me; I only saw it once, and don't plan on revisiting it.

I found a lot of the movie funny, but not that scene. And I did not hear anyone in the cinema laughing, though there was a lot of laughter during the rest of the movie.
The film says two things about all three criminals: they are stupid, and are very unpleasant people. Many of the scenes that show the stupidity are funny, those showing how mean and selfish they are are not.
I think that is true to life, many criminals are mean and stupid.
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It would be disturbing to laugh at her attempt to escape if this was a true story but it wasn't.

If you want a less dark Coen Bros film you should try watching oh brother where art though or raising Arizona.
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I never got the impression that the Coens expected or invited the viewer to laugh with the kidnappers in that scene; at any rate, the musical score playing underneath it offers a rather different, mournful mood. I didn't think it was funny.
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To me it isn't an issue because I am always aware that it is fictional, all a very dark comedy with a good ending message, good winning over evil. Had this been a documentary then I would find it all very disturbing.
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Pink Flamingoes was about meanness and shock value and if it wasn't for the over-the-top presentation, acting and humorous situations, it wouldn't be worth viewing. I don't really like it and much prefer Female Trouble. Fargo is black humor and the mix of this, with the serious and cold aspects of the film can make it a bit of an odd mix and unsettling. I suppose that is the point though and the Coen's are big on morality tales. After I saw No Country For Old Men, I had a bad dream about Javier Bardem's evil and creepy character chasing after me.
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Well, you are a very nice man.

No he's not Nan, Mr. H is more wicked than you and Gus Gus put together.
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Yes, Nan, I am probably very sensitive. Bless your heart for saying it, appreciate it much. (that was not sarcasm, I meant that!)
At the same time, I did think that "Pink Flamingos" was less mean-spirited than this. And that was kind of a mean film. (At least it was funny!)

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If I'm in the mood to watch one of their movies, then I am probably in the wrong mood. I knew it was them when I saw "No Country for Old Men". Just not my speed.

I haven't seen in quite some time Mr. H, but I don't recall being overly impressed. I don't even recall the scene you have mentioned and I am not a big fan of the Coen Bros films. I have to be in the mood to watch them and then usually wish that I was watching something else.
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