Absolutely loved
your post. Couldn't agree more. Thanks.

I think the notion that the threesome led to a parting of the ways by Tenoch and Julio is misplaced. Folks have been so surprised by the kiss scene in the movie, that they have tended to give it undo importance. At its core, the movie is about change, about how transient and unpredictable life is, especially when you're young. All the "certainties" that the boys had at the beginning of the summerabout their own relationship, about their girlfriends were gone by the end of the summer. Every certainty about Mexican politics was shattered around that time. Everything that anyone ever thought about Luisa was transformed over that summer. She went from being someone who was "afraid to claim her freedom," as the magazine in the doctor's office suggested, to a figure of strength and liberation by the end of the movie.
Along those lines, I believe that Tenoch and Julio grew apart not because they felt too vulnerable around each other, but because their different circumstances and socioeconomic levels took them apart, public university, private college, etc. Much in the way that friends you felt close to early in life, you later realize you have little in common, people drift apart in a very natural ways. It was in this natural way that their girlfriends both chose to go in a different direction.
Luisa was the vessel for the main message of the movie. She had lost her parents at age 10, had lost her aunt at 20, was emotionally abandoned by her husband, and was now uprooted from her home country. Through that transformative road trip she was able to create a new family, first with the boys, and then just as deeply with Chuy and Mabel. In her experience of "magical, musical Mexico," she was able to embrace a new homeland. As moviegoers, we marvel at the joy with which she lived her final days. Instead of dying alone and bitter, she died surrounded with love, because she had taken the risk of "giving herself away to the sea." For me, the final scene was the most powerful in the film, because it left me with a great sense of loss, but also with a great appreciation for Luisa and how loving and courageous she had been in the last month of her life.

I only speak for myself as i write this, and also consider that i havent seen this in a while, but for me this movie was so perfect because it felt REAL, like i could see myself going through everything that went on, the relationships felt real(ex: like how they felt bored at Tenochs family encounter, and the persuit of something to do for the summer even though you look foward to it the whole year, the junkie friend[ as mentioned above haha] and how even though they had an incredibly strong bond sometimes the social differences made then embarassed at times, and even how the higher class has more obligation with society) and the scenery GOD IT WAS ALL SO BEAUTIFUL, it made you feel that unique feeling you get when you go on a trip, that your rotine changes and suddenly everything is interesting( the countryside, the roads, the inns, the restaurants) all perfectly alligned moving you toward a notion that is very simple but still of an extreme impact: you can never know where life will take you. So the randomness of it all just seemed fitting and real and honestly i might be blabering trying to explain all these things i felt after watching this. But try and understand this, how many times have you lost a friend because of diferences that shouldnt matter or simple misunderstandings? i think everyone goes through that. Its just made in a way that you can relate to it, i guess.

Could someone please explain why this film is so great? No I'm not a teenager and yes I do like slow moving intelligent movies, but I didn't really get into this movie. I thought it was OK and I didn't think it sucked, but I don't see what was so "life changing" about it. All it was was a coming of age story about two douche baggy best friends who had a threesome with a hot older lady and got weirded out by what they did in said threesome. This then caused them to drift apart. Then you have Luisa who knows she is dying and lives life for her last month. Maybe now that I'm a father things like movies just don't seem as important, but I really would like to know why this movie is so "life changing"?

are you a he or she if i may ask?

You will probably like films like Murmur of the Heart (1971) Ikiru (1952) Jules and Jim ete ete

Not cliche at all! I highly recommend the movie Heaven. To me it's the most complete work of art I've ever seen.

I wonder why can't nobody ever do the same successful and appreciated movie with a 2 girls 1 guy setup? i mean no one ever. isn't that weird?
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I think this is one of the best coming-of-age stories ever made. I'm graduating from high school this year and have been wondering about what it will be like to see my friends in the future. One of my friends went away last year, and by the time she came back, something in the chemistry of our friendship became terribly awkward, reflecting the changes that had emerged between us in the past year.
I wouldn't say that it's a mindblowingly deep movie, but it's surely not one to boil down to bare terms anyways. Besides, what does it say about yourself that all you can fixate on is the kiss? Jesus Christ, just pretend you're not another vanilla American for a moment. Yes, the kiss is an important component to the story, but so is EVERYTHING else. All the scenes are so carefully written.

Metascore on this filme is higher than Amores Perros, Metacritic sums up their reveiews made by critics and is often more accurate than the IMDb rating that is made by anyone who has an account here

Huh. I'm 17, too. I'm glad that I have peers that show appreciation for this film.
"Life is like the surf, so
give yourself away
like the sea."

i have to admit i totally agree with you on that and im 17 (an aspiring film student). My only question is why is this not rated higher than Amores Perros. Sure, Inarritu is a spectacular director but everything else, including the message, was better in this film.

boo
get outta here

ur all gay
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Yepp. It's really, really outstanding.
I know hundreds of films but this one is definitely something special. Just watched it for the first time.
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So in essence, it made you bi?
Woah woah woah woah just kidding

To the OP - I agree that this film is a work of art, but you say that like a lot of modern cinema isn't!! Admittedly there aren't a lot of films around that are these days. (I think the 'art' of film-making is definitely something which is slowly but surely being lost).
But, as for changing my lifeit didn't. There's only one film that changed my life and that was "Det Sjunde Inseglet" without which I wouldn't be where I am today (I mean that psychologically rather than physically as I'm stuck in a dead-end job at 24).
Y Tu Mama Tambien works so well for me purely because it's one of the most unpretentious and unselfconscious films I've ever seen. And I find this ironic because of all the little 'touches' which have been added to the movie that are so subtle yet point obviously to the 'twist' at the end (which when you watch the film back seems so clear!)
All These Moments Will Be Lost In Time Like Tears In Rain

It's just a matter of curiosity, but indulge me, please.
What is your opinion of "Breaking the Waves" and/or "The Last Tango in Paris"?

I can see why someone would say
Y tu mam tambin
is the sort of film that would change their life. I recognized huge chunks of myself and my own experiences in this film too. It taps into these universal feelings but at the same time it feels intimately, intensely personal. Also it's just a great film in general. Very funny, very sad and incredibly natural throughout.

your opinion.
something draws you to it.
that's why you constantly check this page.

Look Dr. Phil, we call them as we see them. Alot more people think the same way about the BIG kiss, frankly, I didn't give a hoot about the movie or what it's message was. IT SUCKED!!!

i don't get why people fixate on that kiss between the guys and sooo many people instantly bring out the gay theme wtf?? what is it with you people why classify that moment of just a thing that happened 'in the moment', that experience that could have been a real thing was beautifully captured on film and it has nothing to do with gayness..
and the thing is yes Luisa was sick and thats what makes you appreciate her love for life even more when you realize she was sick all that time and how she was acting.. it resonates because of what it is.. not all sick people go 'oh im sick my life's over' and lock themselves up in their room they want to make the most of life of the time they have left and how they showed that was amazing.. but the thing that got me the most was that they don't speak again and people assume it was because of the kiss or some gay thing and it IS NOT that.. the kiss might have been like.. the icing on the cake or whatever but it is just a very real representation of when people drift apart when relationships just fall apart and sometimes you cannot return there's nothing you can do about it after all they went through together .. and all they said to each other all their confessions and the luisa thing.. it crossed an invisible line.. it crosses some sort of threshold and then its awkward.. you cant relate in the same way anymore. thats happenned to me in that exact same way.. people just change or something in the relationship changes and you just dont 'click' the same anymore.. especially if life takes you in different directions

i think its hilarious when people dont like a movie they sum it up into a sentence and therefore that makes it a bad movie.
"A movie about two guys that stop being friends just because they found out they were gay?"
oh wait i forgot every single movie ever made is stamped with a tagline or logline.
whats your favorite movie?
ill sum it up in one line and of course it'll seem terrible

A movie about two guys that stop being friends just because they found out they were gay?
Yeah, well, "Citizen Kane" is just a movie about a guy with an overly close attachment to his sledge.
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