I'll just say this..I was like everyone else and had stardust in my eyes when it came to Gena and never really understood Carney's POV until I dealt first hand with Gena and her handlers then I got the picture and the bloom was off the roseI never confused Gena with john's work ever again

That's true, but of course Carney being Carney and having it out for Rowlands words it in the harshest possible light. Their close friend Peter Bogdanovich made it seem like while Gena was making Another Woman, the filming began taking longer than expected, and so Gena and John were both miserable and missing each other.
"Oh I went there, bought a house, moved in b*tch, and now I'm remodeling the kitchen."

Ray Carney is a Cassavetes stan and he has it in for Gena Rowlands because she won't do what he wants regarding Shadows. She's doing what her husband wanted. I take the things he says with a grain of salt. John Cassavetes being a complicated man and pain in the ass is not news. Carney is acting like some fanboy who discovered his idol is not perfect.
And Carney said something like Gena had no understanding of her husband's films. Yet go and listen to that 90 minute interview with Gena and John on A Woman Under the Influence. She shows more of an understanding of Mabel and Nick 2000than even John does! She said some really insightful things about her husband's films. For Carney to say that, just shows he's got an axe to grind because he couldn't get what he wanted. He's a nuisance. I'm sure Cassavetes wouldn't appreciate what he says about his wife, and he was supposedly really annoyed by Carney by the end anyway.
"Oh I went there, bought a house, moved in b*tch, and now I'm remodeling the kitchen."

Is this from "Cassavetes on Cassavetes"? I discovered Ray Carney's website just the other day interesting stuff but I wonder about this guy, his attitude towards Gena Rowlands in particular seems very aggressive, he seems fixated with unvealing some "crucial" Cassavetes truths, like it's him against the world. Do you recommend the book though?

having spoken to carney myself i get the distinct impression (as did he) that Nick was very much a mother's child, quite aloof with John in general probably down to the reasons you've discussed. No doubt a great shame and goes some way to explain why Nick is so different to his father for example
http://www.mickey-rourke.com/

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