You know, no one really pays attention that much to the 'F' part of the term (not that we don't.. ;)). We just say MILF to describe some hot somewhat older woman.
So, you know, it's only a big deal if you make a big deal out of it.
And, excuse meee, how can a woman told she's attractive be not flattered! It's like telling a guy he's well, attractive.

wow good i like your attitude

I'm a feminist and I'd like to know that my appearance and sex appeal were still appreciated after Id matured. The term also happens to be used light-heartedly most of the time as well, so that makes it even more OK.
'Sooner or later you really wear that suit'

i think it's flattering
cougar is different it implies she likes chasing after much younger men

I would never call someone a MIL* out of respect but maybe a Cougar? or just very good good looking?
I am so glad that people take care of their health and look great as they get older even better than someone half their age and yes I find older women attractive.
Eat your greens!

some women i think are flattered by it ones that are older..

Now you know you can't speak for all femininists, just yourself!
RIP Heath Ledger 1979-2008

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http://gallery.celebritypro.com/data/media/214/marg-he111clgenberger-22.jpg
looks like one to me

its a compliment for older women
only feminists don't like it

It depends on the woman.

My wife likes the term a lot.
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well put. Makes the guy look like he's in jr high.
RIP Heath Ledger 1979-2008

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Huh? Yes some women her age, and even younger find that term somewhat flattering. Why is that such a big deal to you? I wouldn't call her that, but I've always thought that Marg was incredibly sexy. And yes, I'm a man so certainly ILF her.
Relax.