I'm black/Japanese and I think it's perfectly acceptable for Asians to be a bit protective of their culture. If it wasn
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nikkiten1979 — 17 years ago(March 27, 2009 05:23 PM)
Then some of the less educated open to things ones will go for black (no offense to any, but that's what I see).
Mmmm you're educated AND ignorant to base something on what you see - makes me wonder how many uneducated or less educated Asians that go for Black
it's pretty sad you have this mentality. I don't even mind your preference, but wish there were less people that came to conclusions like you do I have met many Japanese, Korea5b4n, and Chinese men as well as women, educated and with good jobs, that married a Black person and have children
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The_Magical_Negro — 17 years ago(March 28, 2009 03:14 PM)
Then some of the less educated open to things ones will go for black (no offense to any, but that's what I see).
I don't think Tiki Barber or Dave Chappelle's wives are "less-educated".
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nikkiten1979 — 15 years ago(November 04, 2010 06:17 AM)
In general you are right, but that also depends on where you live. Where i live/work we have many Asians, Latinos, Blacks and Whites. There are many Asian men married, dating White girls even Black girls, but the rarity to me is Asian guy with Latino girl. I mean if you're going to date a small, nerdy man whether he's Asian, White or Black - he most likely will have a small or malfunctioning penis, but at the same time he might not, so unless you go for it because you like him you won't know. In most cases the size or state of a man's penis will define his confidence or his charater - this theory is only mine (and so far it has always worked -
) men with humongous dongs will almost always be OVER-confident when chasing a woman, they tend to be very personable/social, and even if in the look department they are only average or slightly below average they will still be confident and secure enough to try to date you - BUT the guy who "acts" confident, "acts" all social and personable and flirts all the time to the point of absolute cheesiness, and keeps talking about how sexual he is and how good he is in the sack - he will have a small penis or malfunctioning penis and isn't going to be as good as he says.
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Coolestmovies — 16 years ago(June 29, 2009 03:28 PM)
Well, unlike others who've responded to "Luckyrabbit87", I personally agree with most of what she says (in part due to wonderful, enriching personal experiences).
I can't comment on the Asian/Black thing other than to say that I have seen PLENTY of such couples in the massive city where I live, just as I would expect to see: cities may have their ethnic "enclaves" wherein the culture can be protected/enforced/encouraged by the elders, but cities are also ethnically diverse, and if you think you're precious little Korean or Chinese or Black or Indian child is going to grow up SOLELY exposed to his or her own kind, you're delusional, and because these kids grow up to be more comfortable around MANY cultures (unlike their immigrant parents) that's no reason to call them hurtful names. If anything, they're PROGRESSIVE. They don't buy into the insidious cultural protectionism of their parents. If they meet "one of their own" on their own terms (i.e. NOT through artificial familial arrangementsmommy and daddy know chemistry? Sure.), they're cool with maintaining the status quo. If, on the other hand, they meet someone who's NOT of their own culture, and fall in love with that person, and are willing to sacrifice to BE with that person, then that should be respected and understood rather than reduced to a pitiful straw-man argument, as many here have done. Their families may throw tantrums or play the racial pollution card, but that's really about all they've got, and it's pretty pathetic to use it to enforce something that not every young person agrees with.
Don't know about the education angle, etc. There are dumb people and smart people in all cultures. Some times they attract each other, sometimes they attract the opposite. End of story.
I do feel bad that any Asian (female OR male) who is attracted to someone not of their own culture is somehow a sellout, or full of self-hatred, or a white-worshipper, and so on. But then again, the very kind of cultural protectionism I've outlined above breeds EXACTLY the kind of TRUE cultural ignorance demonstrated by Aurelia4 in response to LuckyRabbit's measured and thoughtful post. It's THESE kind of people in any culture who worry: so quick to hate; so easy to rile; so full of empty nationalism. These are the people who often end up RUINING their children's lives because they won't budge on matters like these.