I hate Bernice
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anuck_su_namoon — 20 years ago(September 26, 2005 02:36 AM)
I doubt a young child would understand why her dad was gone. The only thing Bernise would have understood was that her father wasn't there, and that it was her mother who moved them away. Naturally she would have lashed out at her mother.
I don't see how anyone could say that Mae Whitman is a horrible actress. Any girl that could pull of the character Bernise as well as Mae should be praised.
~ Tina x0
http://mae-whitman.tk- Simply Mae
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texasturkey — 17 years ago(July 12, 2008 10:09 PM)
Bernice was a brat and so disrespectful to Justin. I felt bad for her when she got picked on at school for wearing glasses. Maybe that is one of the reasons she acted out. She was unhappy abou the divorce and moving to Texas.
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selphee57 — 20 years ago(January 07, 2006 05:31 PM)
It's really pretty simple if you ask me. She has the animosity towards her mother b/c her mother is still there obviously. She's really angry with her father but he leaves and she can't let him know so her mother is the one stuck with the animosity and cleaning up the father's mess. It happens to families all the time. The one parent that is still around gets all of the blame and yet is the one that cleans up the other's mess. You can't take it out on the parent you're truly mad at if they're not around to hear itso you vent on the person that is.
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susana1027 — 15 years ago(September 05, 2010 08:09 PM)
Selphee57, you have a lot of understanding. Children of divorced parents typically show anger toward the parent they know will love them no matter what. The one they're the most secure with. We're talking about children. They only know their life is out of their control, and they hate it. They're confused and unhappy and angry. They just want the problem fixed. They often try to get their parents back together. And they need to be shown a lot of patience. Divorce is cruel. But some people are selfish and only think about their own happiness. Remember when Birdie's husband said that this was his chance for happiness and he was going to take it. He obviously didn't care who got hurt in the process. How do you explain that to a child? This film did an excellent job of showing, among other things, the child's side of divorce.
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JoanTheVampireSlayer — 11 years ago(December 23, 2014 12:11 AM)
Yes she is a fantastic actor and I like her for most of the movie, but I just don't understand the animosity that she feels for her mother before the 'father driving away and leaving her screaming' scene.
Her hatred towards her mother came down to misplaced animosity and denial. She wanted to believe her mother was to blame for her dad leaving because that was easier to accept than the truth that her dad
chose
to remove himself from her life because he didn't love her enough. Bernice had her fantasies that her dad would come "rescue" her from her "evil" mother and then that dream was crushed when her dad abandoned her while she was begging to take him with her. Bernice had expectations for her father that she desperately wanted him to meet because she didn't want to lose him. Until that moment when he drove away while she was crying, Bernice hadn't experienced her father blatantly disregarding her feelings. She needed to have that experience in order to put into perspective who was really being the bad parent.
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g-parsons3 — 19 years ago(May 30, 2006 09:31 AM)
I don't hate Bernice, it's only natural for a child to blame someone, anyone - even if its the closest person to you in your life. They need someone to lash out at, even if it was the parent who did nothing wrong. And Mae Whitman did a fantastic job! How a 10year old actress can do the scene where her dad is driving away from her for the last time is beyond me. She did that scene perfectly, and it even made me weep a little. And I rarely cry in films.
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lillyth_1 — 18 years ago(September 09, 2007 03:35 PM)
Divorce or no divorce had my child acted like that she would have been slapped upside the head. I wasn't saddened by the final scene, I wanted to smack her because they had made her SO very unappealing.
There is also this sentiment we have that somehow all children are precious little wonders. Hitler was a child once
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contact3-1 — 19 years ago(July 20, 2006 11:44 AM)
That scene where she is screaming out for her dad gave me chills because she was trembling which made it so believable. And yes, while the character of Bernice was a bit of a brat with an attitude, I just wanted to hug her and calm her down when her father drove away. Very few moments where I am moved by a child's acting, and this was one of them.
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cheluzal — 19 years ago(July 22, 2006 08:02 PM)
She annoys me.
I know she's grieving and needs an outlet, but she was completely disrespectful to her mom. So much that she needed some discipline at times.
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EngAkWaSdKy — 19 years ago(July 30, 2006 11:45 AM)
I have to agree to a point Especially in this same scene where she's leaving the house to go outside and she looks at her mother (Sandra Bullock) and says, "Don't you ruin anything!!" I wanted to reach through the TV and slap her silly! I thought, "What a little brat!" But I think she's a good actress for making people hate her character
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ANguyen3 — 16 years ago(November 28, 2009 01:21 PM)
I've read several people bashing Bernice, but what about Birdie?
I like Birdie because she is great looking and she has an extremely likeable personality. But she does have flaws, especially when it comes to being a mother. Let me explain:- She is depressed for most of the movie and doesn't spend enough quality time with Bernice.
- She let's grandma take care of Bernice because she is still depressed. Grandma cooks and watches her and talks to her more than Birdie.
- Bernice doesn't like her new school yet we don't see Birdie giving her much support. Why does everyone want the 8 year old to support the mom instead of the other way around?
- Birdie is beautiful and Bernice is geeky. Maybe there is a bit of jealousy there? Birdie has been blessed with good lucks so she doesn't have much to complain about.
- Birdie doesn't have any skills. She can't have a respectable job and doesn't appear to be much of a homemaker. She's just good at being a trophy wife. (Granted, they portray her as a talented photographer)
So my point is that I have more patience and understanding for Bernice's bad attitude than I have for Birdie's depression. Birdie can have just about any guy she wants. Bernice, on the other hand, is the new dorky girl in town. Bernice will have more trouble finding friends and boyfriends.
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its_a_Kristina_thing — 16 years ago(January 07, 2010 07:28 PM)
Bernice is a child who went through a traumatic experience- her parents divorce, a change in school, having to leave her friends behind, her father's infidelity with a trusted family friend, AND all of this was on television. I'd like to see how you would have acted in that situation. Of course Bernice is going to blame her mom in that situation, it's natural. She didn't understand the magnitude of her words. Birdie knows that, that's why she doesn't take it to heart and ignores her daughters comments. The fact that so many of you couldn't realize this is a little disappointing.
ANguyen3, I agree with #1 and 3, I think that it was better of Birdie to move in with her mother, rather than find an apartment of her own, following the divorce. That way, Bernice would be taken care of and have a maternal figure in her life, when she couldn't be one. Her decision to move in with her mother is a much better one than to have moved to another apartment, where Bernice would have been emotionally neglected and made to take care of herself. Regarding point 4, Bernice had lots of potential to be good looking, she was a cute kid, she jsut ha a geeky sense of style. She has a cute face and complexion, it's just that her clothing and big glasses were unbecoming. At that age, Bernice would not have felt jealousy toward Birdie. Maybe when she was a teenager, but not as a child. Bernice would admire her mother's beauty. Regarding point 5, I think that Birdie didn't have a chance to develop any skills, because Bill didn't like her working and preferred for her to stay home. Bill and Birdie were high school sweethearts and lived together right after graduation, marrying shortly after. -
brainybrailler — 18 years ago(October 18, 2007 01:20 PM)
Well, I thought it was a pain that the mother never bothered explaining anything about how her father wasn't faithful to her and that's why they left, or defend herself when she saw that she was blaming her. So it makes sense that she would think it was her mother's fault, especially when her father left her that note of condolence and kept in touch.