If the relationship was socially accepted and legal, it would've worked
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scndform — 11 years ago(November 26, 2014 06:56 AM)
I don't think it would have- and for more than one reason.
Neither Hum or Lo have any idea of what constitutes a healthy relationship. They were each other's victim and each other's abuser- each in their own way trying to assert power and control of the relationship.
Humbert tried to establish an adult man/woman sexual relationship while at the same time employing a parent/child relationship-very confusing to say the least.
Also,Humbert seems to be on the same adolescent level of maturity as Lo- basically that of a 14 year old. -
lmzf — 11 years ago(November 29, 2014 03:08 AM)
Dysfuctional relationships are common between adults as well. In this case it wouldn't have been nearly as bad if it weren't for Humbert's paranoia and fear of being "found out" gnawing away at their relationship.
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scndform — 11 years ago(November 30, 2014 07:06 AM)
I certainly can't argue that there are many dysfunctional adult relationships- and that some of the people in them remain together, but to me just because you remain together doesn't mean that the relationship "works."
To me a relationship that works needs to be comprised of two people who love and trust each other and genuinely make the other person happy. Two people Who don't control, manipulate, or abuse the other partner. Two people who care more for the other than they do for their self and are able to communicate with each other to work out the problems that arise in any relationship.
I just don't see the combination of Hum and Lo able to meet these requirements no matter if Lo was of legal age or not. -
SophieSlut — 10 years ago(April 04, 2015 10:59 AM)
Funny you hunt for attention here saying one thing. And then you hunt for attention on the Furious 7 page saying the exact opposite.
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lazarillo — 9 years ago(July 06, 2016 08:49 PM)
I disagree. This is "amour fou" (French for "crazy love"). It doesn't have to be about an age difference. The basic concept is you fall in love with the IDEA of a person that the real person can never live up to. Such a love is almost always unequal, but even if it is mutual, it is doomed to fail.
"Let be be finale of seem/ The only emperor is the Emperor of Ice Cream" -
bastasch8647 — 9 years ago(August 11, 2016 11:40 PM)
As others have said, it wouldn't have worked because Lo and Hum are completely different people - they have "nothing in common". So even if the relationship was legal, and Humbert pressed for marriage (I can't imagine Lo instigating a proposal), such a union would be doomed to be short-lived. Humbert, a sophisticated European man of letters, and Lo, a typically self-absorbed and not particularly intellectually curious pre-teen/early teen, could never have reached a meeting of the minds. As Humbert himself tells us, when Lo sees him all she sees is a pair of eyes and a foot-long male muscle. Sex is what bound Hum to Lo, and opportunism bound Lo to Hum - at least until she could "land" Quilty. No amount of legality could have saved their relationship, such as it was.