Question about Brown and Black Relationships…
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Dirty_South_Boss — 17 years ago(February 26, 2009 07:22 PM)
Yeah, check the history of my poststhat's clearly my pattern(rolls eyes). I asked provocative question in the hope for honest yet polite responses.is it necessary to be rude to be persuasive? I think not.
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MysteryReaderReturns — 17 years ago(March 31, 2009 02:41 PM)
Dirty,
I'd just forget about themthey're racists & a waste of time. To them, you're seen as a manipulator, tainting the purity of a brown girl with your blackness. That's it. You're not as human as they are. If their cultures were important, perhaps they shouldn't move into diverse regions, especially the West.
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LiveTogetherDialAPhone — 15 years ago(July 12, 2010 12:34 PM)
"It's about preservation of one's culture through timenot to forget it. You hear some mixed raced saying"oh yes, I had a Grandfather that was Indian blah blah blah"but they don't know how to speak the language and have forgotten the rich culture."
Well, what do they expect? They moved to the UK, the US, or some other country in search of better opportunity, where the dominant culture is very different from their original culture. No one can have their cake and eat it too. What do they think is going to happen to their family after several generations of living in that society? It has happened time and time again, throughout history - Assimilation is not a new concept.
And anyway, just because one assimilates into a new culture doesn't mean they have to forget their ancestral culture. People are free to practise their ancestral religion, learn to speak their ancestral language, visit the lands of their ancestors, cook the foods, and appreciate the art and music. All of my ancestors came to the United States over a century ago, and in some cases three centuries ago. I still enjoy learning about and taking pride in the cultures they came from. -
lolavideola — 17 years ago(April 03, 2009 05:50 AM)
Hey Dirty,
I am a white girl married to an Indian guy. Indian/pakistani culture are nearly the same in this regard. They are both extremely racist. ESPECIALLY against blacks. They do view black people as inferior. Their mindset to this day is: "God forbid that my daughter/son marry a black!!!!"
Heck they are even prejudiced against whites, so black people don't stand much chance. BUT once her family/community gets to know you as a person, they will definitely warm up to you and realise how stupid their prejudices are.
Their communities and mind-set(especially those settled in the west/UK) are extremely insular because they are fighting against losing their cultural identity.
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XxLu-LuXx — 16 years ago(June 26, 2009 05:28 AM)
I hate to say it but it is true..if you are english you might of read books by an authour called Bali Rai in his book called 'The Last Taboo' it talks about a british asian teenager who goes out with a black person and most of her extended family think that it is terrible thing.
The writer Bali Rai message is basically that if you love someone their race shouldn't matter and the grandpa agrred with the young asian teen becuase in the old days jamicans and asians were seen as equal becuase of the skineheads at that time and they were both united and fought aganist themanyway lol what im trying to say is that a lot of asian family would think an asian woman marrying a black person is a 'taboo'. I however disagree with thisbut its just how things are. -
phillycaesar — 16 years ago(June 27, 2009 10:32 AM)
"in the old days jamicans and asians were seen as equal becuase of the skineheads at that time and they were both united and fought aganist them."
Evidently you know very little, if anything, about skinheads and their relations with Jamaicans and South Asians "back in the day."
The skinhead subculture was heavily influenced by the Jamaican rudeboy subculture (music and fashions) and "paki bashing" became a pastime which was shared by many British working-class youth, both black and white.
Despite whatever efforts and propaganda, British blacks feel little affinity with South Asians. -
Dirty_South_Boss — 16 years ago(July 21, 2009 09:59 AM)
Wow, looks like I got the poignant replies right at the end. Thanks so much guys, I really appreciate it. My lady is now 3 months pregnant and we couldn't be happier.
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Dirty_South_Boss — 15 years ago(June 02, 2010 10:37 AM)
Thats definitely something we're trying to wrap our heads around. I suppose that she'll be exposed to everything and her mother and I will do our best to place things in a proper context and make connections between the two as best we see fit. Ultimately, our children will always be allowed to express whatever they feel to be their particular spiritual calling. No religion(if any) gets it just right anyway.
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Screen-7 — 15 years ago(June 07, 2010 11:07 PM)
Dirty_South_Boss on Tue Oct 14 2008 11:29:57
Basically, i am a Black Christian male about to be married to a Pakistani-American, Muslim Female
It's probably not the race-mixing but the religion that would make it an issue for conservative Muslims.
Specifically that a Christian man would marry a Muslim woman.
I've lived in several Muslim countries and they all ban Muslim women marrying anyone but a Muslim. (not just a Christian.)
The reverse is fine (Muslim men marrying a woman of another religion) and even seems kind of encouraged.
Try Googling the subject it's in the news fairly often. -
surpan — 10 years ago(January 22, 2016 01:53 AM)
It has been seven years since you've asked the question, now tell us how's your relationship with your in-laws and partner is going on, did you face any difficulty or it worked out fine, I'm eager to know this.
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