Freaking out: ONE WOMAN for the rest of my life!
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Archived from the IMDb Discussion Forums — Old School
markcdaniels — 11 years ago(September 09, 2014 10:21 AM)
Serious time.
The movie is extremely funny, but also contains a couple of real Mens Issues that hit close to home. Like Frank, I freaked-out when it fully sank in, shortly AFTER getting married, that I was now limited to just ONE WOMAN for the rest of my life. Im still unhappy about that today, fifteen years after the wedding. Is it so wrong that he was wondering about the waitress's panties while at the Olive Garden with his wife? Been in that situation, many times!
And then theres Beanie: he gets alone with a woman whos willing to have sex with him which was essentially his motivation to start the fraternity in the first place but he cant go through with it. Hes married and his conscience wont allow him to cheat; all he can do is lamely suggest to the woman that she give him her phone number, in case hes ever single and available in the future. Pathetic!
But these situations reflect my own pathetic situation as a married man: I want to flirt and fool around with a variety of women but Im unwilling to commit adultery so Im trapped and cant have what I want. (That is, until Im either divorced or widowed, or if I become willing to cheat.) I recommend to all single young men: sow your wild oats, flirt and have sex with as many women as you can WHILE you can. Then maybe, when youre a middle-aged married man, you wont feel any regrets, and any pangs of a mid-life crisis will be lessened (or non-existent). -
Kuato_and_George — 11 years ago(January 02, 2015 07:05 AM)
While polygamy is creepy as f-ck and completely sexist/unbalanced, you do have to wonder about the concept of marriage sometimes. Not the commitment per say, it's ok to want to have that one special person in your life, only sleeping with one person the rest of your life really does go against our nature.
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SophieSlut — 10 years ago(April 19, 2015 08:36 PM)
While polygamy is creepy as f-ck and completely sexist/unbalanced
I'm sorry, but I got
really
angry when I read that, man. I know we have different tastes in film, but lets put that all behind ourselves for a bit and talk about what you said.
Polygamy (or a more precise term: polyamoury, since polygamy refers specifically to marriage) is a relationship style that some groups of people find are the most comfortable to be in. In some cases, it's part of their culture, and in other cases, it's just what people find to be the most fitting for who they are.
Calling somebodies culture, lifestyle, or lovelife "creepy as f-ck" is
really
uncool. Imagine if somebody had said "being gay is creepy as f-ck" or "interracial dating is creepy as f-ck". It's not exactly something that would sit well with those people.
And I know that you weren't
trying
to insult anybody. I know you probably were only thinking along the lines of sexual slavery and third world countries. I can especially tell this because you described it as sexist. Please know that polyamourous relationships are often between one female and several males.
Other things that I have found are that people involved in these type relationships are very often bisexual (way more often than the overall population). And that people in polyamourous relationships are in relationships with others who are polyamourous. It's not just one guy in a relationship with 3 girls, its that those 3 girls are also in relationship with 3 guys.
Regardless, it's a type of relationship some people choose to be in, and you should show a little respect for other peoples cultures. -
Wherethebeerflowslikewine — 11 years ago(January 05, 2015 01:30 AM)
Wow. Not sure what to think about this. Is your wife really that much of a dud? Why don't you just divorce her then? OR you could just ask her why she has a stick up her butt and won't get freaky with you. Her answer might surprise you. Sorry you didn't get enough teenage booty in your early years to sustain you.
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prettyflowers83 — 9 years ago(May 03, 2016 07:55 PM)
This is not a gender-specific issue.
Women feel the same way, as I can say from experience. I am committed to my relationship, but there are times when I really, really just wish I could go out to a club and meet some new men and see what happens, or even go home with them. I miss that excitement and the rush that comes from meeting someone I'm attracted to and acting on it!
Like Beanie, however, I would feel too guilty for cheating. I don't think he's pathetic. I think it would be pathetic to give into those impulses and betray someone you've committed yourself to.
No one has ever said relationships are easy, and if they do say that, they've never been in a committed relationship!