Do/did you spank your children? Did your parents ever physically discipline you?
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Lilith — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:07 AM)
Exactly. I've always hated the comments like we won't remember when grow up, or that it builds character. There's no reason to strike a child, and an adult can often not realize just how hard they're hitting a child.
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Cheeky — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 12:36 AM)
I'm glad you don't. I used to believe in spanking but now I think it's wrong to hit a child
If we take the time to see with the heart and not with the mind, we shall see that we are surrounded completely by angels ~ Carlos Santana -
(SNoW) — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 12:36 AM)
Yeah I got beat so ****in bad as a kid lmao. Wooden stick, leather belt, the lot. Getting battered is pretty normal in my community and have never held any grudges against my parents for their militant parental style although my mother did express huge regret I her later years. That said we're hoping to have kids soon and we would never even think of doing it but I don't really look down on those who do it for the purpose of instilling discipline in their child. If you're a sick, tormented individual that beats their child for self pleasure then you can get ****ed by a herd of raging hard horses. Evil *****.
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dbentley666 — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 12:46 AM)
Tough life, Snow. I got thrashed a lot. Went to boarding school where we were caned every day. Later went to a tough school where students and teachers got into slugfests quite openly. All this while Dad was thrashing us at home. For all that I had a blissful childhood!
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(SNoW) — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:00 AM)
I don't think I'm a sociopath nor do I want folks to think I'm one nor have I ever claimed to be one but I'm glad Sophie thinks I'm one of it solves the question of why her own friends think she's an insufferable bitch. Maybe you should permanently put me on ignore with this account too before I make you melt the **** out again.
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:17 AM)
Here's a little free tip, and you will never ever need to lift a hand:
Work on your Dad-growl. It helps me that I am (IRL) a tall and severe-looking person, but a good growl will work wonders in terms of getting misbehaving children to change their ways, fast. -
Cerridwen — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 12:49 AM)
Oh, yes. My father was a military man and was quite fond of physical punishments. I don't plan on having any children, so I've no preferred parenting style, but I will say that nothing in childhood was a better deterrent than the thought of catching a beating.
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Vlad. — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:04 AM)
Not THAT young. I just don’t age but I take your point
Ever listen to Carlin’s hardcore history? In one podcast, he discusses how one hundred years back it was commonplace and encouraged to beat your kids. Good parenting back then, as life was tougher.
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:10 AM)
I grew up on the cusp of corporal punishment from one's parents becoming a bad thing, and I am in my very late 40s. It saddens me to hear that people much younger than me suffered it too.
I would say it did nothing for me other than fuel resentment/revenge fantasies. anybody who rationalizes it otherwise should perhaps rethink things.
Because to be honest, it was less about the pain inflicted than it was the shame and the dominance, -
Lilith — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 02:12 AM)
Precisely. My father has passed away (he never laid a hand on me, but had a violent temper and we would have plenty of holes punched in walls and doors and broken items in the house as well as the only time he's raise his very soft and gentle voice would be in his fits of rage, when he'd cuss something fierce and yell loudly…might be why I am a quiet person and don't like boisterous people).
However, my mother would be the one to do the beatings, and it was on the flesh, not through clothes. As I got older, I went from feeling angry towards her, vindictive, and then indifferent. We've been estranged for many years, although she's reached out a few times, and I feel nothing. I've stopped caring. I don't want to try. She's not worth the effort to reconnect. She broke boundaries and trust.
Why would parents want to hurt their children?
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 02:33 AM)
If it helps - for every parent there was often at least one grandparent heaping on really terrible advice. That's also from my experience as a parent.
So in part it could be that they were getting really dodgy advice and pressure.
Not that that ever excuses, but it may help explain, at least some of this stuff.