For you, can someone hot not be your type?
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 09:18 AM)
lol
It's not just personality though. It's like there are those I look at and I'm like that's nice to look at… and I can see they are hot… but I feel no connection. Then I see a girl, and maybe she is not even as hot as these hot girls I notice… and I am drawn to something like big eyes or a certain smile or face shape… and I'm hooked. Then personality and how she feels about me determines where it goes from there. -
Aoabai — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 10:53 AM)
Hot people can burn in hell! Ugly people like moi (I know “he” is going to reply to this) unite!
In all seriousness, I honestly don’t really see hotness or ugliness. I’m not oblivious to it. I do know what socially makes someone look and act hot vs. ugly. Same thing with lifestyle. I know what lifestyle choices look good and don’t look good. But, that doesn’t mean I go by those ideals as my personal preferences and attraction.
For me, it’s not so much that the person is hot or that they’re ugly. Because I can be attracted to all sort of people. To be fair, I use the word attraction loosely because… I think I mainly have this so called attraction out of desperation because I’m lonely. But, I also think it’s because I have a fluid sexuality. So, naturally I can get aoused by many different looking people, and I can remove them from their personality or lifestyle, if need be. But, that’s obiviously just sexual attraction.
When it comes to romantic attraction, it has little to nothing to do with appearance. It’s their personality all the way. You know how people see someone that they’re attracted to, then they get to know them, which results in them being attracted to their personality? Well, it’s like that. But, backwards. So, I see this person’s personality, I get to know them, and then I notice how ****ing insanely hot they are. So, it’s like that. -
Vlad. — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 11:05 AM)
Bullshit. Everyone sees hotness, baby. How else would you be able to read this post.
I don't believe in types. It smacks of bias toward the familiar, which is the death of creativity and all things interesting.
Like an investment portfolio, you must mitigate risk though strategic diversification. You must **** multiple asset classes, not just one type lest the market **** you right back.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 01:10 AM)
People are always assuming that when you're a little different, you're full of ****. Like when you see couples where one person is more conventionally hot than the other, it's always assumed they have money. If you disprove that, it's that she or he is insecure or he has a big dick lol. It's always something.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 01:00 AM)
Who is "he"?
Yeah, I know everyone has their own perceptions and **** like that. that's why I am asking. Want to read different people's… love language? Some care about looks, some don't, some care about looks but not in a conventional way, and everything in between.
Personality plays the biggest role for me as far as wanting to be with someone, and it's not about whether they're nice or not, but I do like nice. I guess it's compatibility… the right balance of similarity and difference. Looks matter somewhat, but not as much as with most people I talk to, and not in the same way. Personality can make me see past looks on rare occasions.
I wish I could be like that, where looks aren't a factor at all, but I have to admit they do. -
Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:16 PM)
OMG, this black background is hurting my eyes. I need to get the **** out of here quick.
I think mating for MOST PEOPLE works in four different ways. One way being that LOOKS matters more and it starts or ends the relationship. Then personality, as well as everything else like religion, lifestyle, etc… continues or discontinues the relationship. That’s for most people. I think that’s the main way of mating because it’s a happy medium. Tha’ts a person that isn’t too much of anything. They aren’t shallow, just caring about looks. But, they don’t just care about personality and something else, besides looks. Granted, those people do exist. There are people who are shallow that just mate base on looks and there are people who mate base on personality or other things. I just don’t they are as large as the happy medium group. As for the foruth and final group, it’s like the happy medium group, but reverse. So, instead of someone finding LOOKS important and having that start, end a relationship… personality and/or everything else is what is important and personality and/or everything else is what starts, continues, ends the relationship. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:27 PM)
You can change the background in you profile. You might prefer the previous autumn theme.
I think maybe I am all over the place. I have started catching feelings where I am smitten by their looks first and I have caught feelings for some girls after getting to know them, even if I didn't find them attractive at first. That was the case with my first love. I used to just see her as a friend I went to karate class with and crushed on an entirely different girl.
I'm afraid of saying something wrong with you lol. I hope nothing here comes off as objectifying, misogynistic, or something along those lines. -
Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:50 PM)
Oh, thank goodness… I just changed it. For the love of blackness… it was hurting my eyes. Anyways, I really don’t have anything else to say and I’m kind of frustrated now. Not with you. I’m frustrated with someone else. So, I don’t want to talk anymore… like always, lol. I know, I’m a delight.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:56 PM)
You're not that bad lol. I don't agree with some of your views, but I see no ill intent or anything like that… and I can understand just burning out on something. I get like that with political discussions here. I just don't seriously partake in them. Just say a buncha **** and then call the conservatives idiots.
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TheGhostOfStupidBitch — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 11:01 AM)
I see hot people all the time… but most of them don't draw me in.
There goes the nasty looking fat Frankenfck acting like he’s so cool when in reality he’s one of the most revolting people to post here.
You a dummy. Ain’t nobody want chu, ain’t nobody need you.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 05:43 AM)
I doubt he's talked to you in years. Even if he does, you loved the guy, and you're still clinging in the friend zone lol… and no one puts you there but yourself. You know what I did when I realized things were really over with my ex? I deleted her and blocked her. Close that ****ing chapter. You'll feel better… and people are deluding themselves when they say they can be friends with an ex or unrequited love. It's bullshit. Don't even try to tell me otherwise lol.
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Aoabai — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 11:17 AM)
By the way, you’re doing it again. You’re objectifying women. And no, objectification doesn’t just have to be sexual.
However, what you are referring to is PREFERENCES. These socially hot girls don’t have the physical preferences you like, regardless of them being ideally hot girls. It’s kind of like… looking at a very slim, small tits, small everything, tan, hairless everywhere, blonde hair, blue eye beauty… that is socially hot. But, this particular guy prefers brunettes. It’s like that.
This has nothing to do with you being weird, special, or anything like that. Just because you are “rejecting” these women doesn’t mean anything because you’re not really rejecting them. You’re faux rejecting them. Even if you happen to reject a woman that happens to be socially hot, it doesn’t somehow make you a better person.
I also think you’re not attracted to these women because they don’t match your looks. We tend to be attracted to the same level. For example, two people who are overweight most likely would betogether because they meet at the same level. By the way, this has nothing to do with being out of someone’s league or whatever. It’s not about that. That’s what losers says to make people feel as ****ty as they feel every day of their lives. So, it’s not about that. It’s just common sense, culture, social grouping, psychosocially, It’s just how it works. Sometimes it doesn’t work like that. But, in most cases it works like that. Point is, I think that’s why you’re not attracted to these women because… they are not at your level. You have a different look to you, so you need a different woman, that isn’t the stereotypical hot girl.
I also think you have personal resentment towards women.