I think women don't feel comfortable aging because of MEN
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HomeImp67 — 15 years ago(October 01, 2010 12:09 PM)
Are you trying to claim it's not true? Which I believe it is. And if it is true, what is the problem with posting it and trying to fix it? I believe it is men who have caused the problem by wanting these young looking women, so women feel the need to get plastic surgery or not accept their aging body, to keep or get a man. But when men age, they can bald and get that "spare tire" and we don't see them as uncomfortable with it as women. It's really sad how some women try to live up to this ideal woman, usually photoshopped on a magazine, and not just accept themselves the way that they are. Which is why I don't try to strive for that ideal, and just take care of myself and love myself the way that I am.
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activista — 9 years ago(November 15, 2016 12:03 AM)
@HomeImp67
You're so rightall you said was true. The thing is, we ALL are going to ageeven mentime dosen't stop for them,either. And yes, it's men that have always made getting old so much of a damn issue for womenwhich is why we damn near kill ourselves trying to do an impossible thingstave off age with plastic surgery until we're got no skin left to pull back, and starving ourselves into a skeletal size. Yeah, men like younger women, but so what? Women like hot younger dudes,too. Men don't have a claim on dating younger than their age. And society has always brainwashed women into believing (until recently) that they are only as good as their looksas if that's all a woman has to offer. Hollywood really browbeats women into doing that-making actresses (and sometimes actors) contort their faces into these horrible-ass hideous shapesit's sad and pathetic) even though I know it's the industry forcing them to do that.) But,yeah, it's good that you take care of yourself and like yourself the way you are. Since this is an old post, and you're closer to 30 now, there's definitely going to be more pressure on you as a women to look younger. Ignore the BS, don't drink the Koolaid, and just do you like you're been doing. -
Scotsmania — 14 years ago(October 10, 2011 04:41 PM)
You have 20 years at least on the woman so your insecurities have very little weight. Teri is almost 50, not almost 30.
Her obsession for being thin is what removes her appeal for most, including myself. She was hot a year or so ago but has went back to not eating and as a result has those hollow eyes that we associate with. -
SimplemindedSociety — 13 years ago(November 28, 2012 02:29 AM)
'But you know who I think has a problem with it? Men. Everything Oprah and her guests said on her show today was great, but it won't change what men want'
really? You sure women don't have problem with what other other women think of them? I thought women had a mind of their own, or does that apply when it's convenient? Yes, "Oprah" is our guide to understanding life, and learning tool.
'Women, on the other hand, don't marry for looks'Sure they don't. That's why they marry any ole man with "inner beauty", regardless of his looks. Men don't marry for looks either, unless you think men are that shallow.
'I think we need to change what men want for women to feel more comfortable aging naturally.'You go for it
And while you're changing what people want,change women who marry and "love" a man for his wallet. With a nice-sized wallet, I can see how women might not care about the man's looks.
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fraggle40 — 11 years ago(September 13, 2014 12:30 PM)
I'm 43, so middle aged. Yes, I have lines and wrinkles that I didn't have at your age, but hell, I have two beautiful children who are more important than worrying about wrinkles. I exercise by walking a lot for my job. My husband is 7 years younger than me, and if he ever said anything about my wrinkles, I'd merely point out that he's lost a lot of hair since we've been together! No-one makes me feel insecure about who I am or my appearance because I don't let them. If you let any man feel bad about your appearance, you need to get rid ASAP!
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bpollen — 11 years ago(November 28, 2014 09:43 PM)
I'm a woman, and I married for looks and hot sex. All my boyfriends have been hot looking. They liked me because I was hot looking, too, I suppose.
There's nothing wrong with that. Even though you might recognize someone as a genuine and good person, funny, etc., you can't help but be attracted to someone you find attractive. It's biology. That is related to age, particularly. We are all more attractive when we're younger. ESPECIALLY men. Maybe it's because they don't color their hair and don't have the benefit of cosmetics and maybe don't take care of themselves. But men don't seem to age very well at all (unless they're in Hollywood).
I'm older, now. Most men my age and a little older look way older than I do. Some kids even mistakenly thought I was my brother's daughter (he's only 2 years older than I am). I'd like to find a soulmate, but honestly, I haven't seen an available man my age that I find sexy. They are either way overweight, don't exercise at all, or drink too much, or are too short, or just look haggard from a life of partying or whatever, watch sports while sitting on the sofa swilling down beer, or things like that. They were much more interesting and sexy when they were young. So I take issue with the assumption that women don't age well. We all age, but I think women age a little better. -
activista — 9 years ago(November 15, 2016 02:27 AM)
@bpollen
We are all more attractive when we're younger. ESPECIALLY men.
That's not always truethat really depends on the person. Some people aren't attractive until they become adults, some stay looking unattractive. And then attractiveness is truly in the eye of the beholderand also, the definitions of5b4 what is considered attractive in society always changes over time, from state to state, region to region, and from country to country. So attractiveness has always been a very malleable thing to begin with.
Another thing,toolooks fade just like anything else. If two people in a relationship haven't got anything to offer each other besides looks and hot sex,it won't last too long anyway-it takes way the hell more than that to hold a real relationship together-like mutual trust, being able to count on each other in good times or bad, and being able to give each other support, period. -
lukejbarnett — 4 years ago(January 31, 2022 03:15 AM)
hell even when girls are in their 30s a lot of times they look 40 or older whereas most guys 30 or 35 look young still.
girls age so badly it's sad. i mean even at 25 some girls start to look old.
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lukejbarnett — 4 years ago(January 31, 2022 03:13 AM)
wrong we all more attractive when we are young especially girls. my gosh it's so obvious and 100% agreeable that girls age a lot worse than men.
and the reason is girls have an image of being soft and gentle looking when young and at their best looking so when old they completely lose this soft and gentle look whereas men look their best when young and rugged looking which means when they are old or older they still look rugged and thus still look fine and attractive.
the only thing that girls have on guys as far as aging is they can wear makeup to cover up aging marks whereas guys can't. but this is not anywhere near as big of a factor in looking good as the factor of girls not looking soft or gentle anymore.
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pukejbarnett — 4 years ago(January 31, 2022 03:17 AM)
Dear Luke J Barnett,
STFU. Your opinions are toxic.
I'm sorry — there's something wrong with you, but can't you just write all this **** in a journal? No one else really needs to read it. All you spread is hate and ridicule. And besides that, most people probably have you blocked anyway.
Sorry, just telling it like it is.
It would be in your best interest, really.
Your pal,
Puke
