Margolyes Regrets 'Coming Out' To Her Mother
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Archived from the IMDb Discussion Forums — Miriam Margolyes
jeannyvere — 17 years ago(September 28, 2008 04:36 PM)
Margolyes Regrets 'Coming Out' To Her Mother
28 September 2008 4:08 PM, PDT
Actress Miriam Margolyes regrets revealing her sexuality to her mother, because she's convinced the shock caused her to suffer a stroke just days later.
The Harry Potter star, 67, has been open about her sexuality since 'coming out' in her twenties, but she wishes she could go back and change history - because her decision to speak out about her sexuality caused her mum, Ruth, a lot of anguish.
Margolyes says, "It caused the person I loved most16d0 in the world a pain she could not bear and I have to take the responsibility for that.
"I should have been aware that that was something I could not say, and I really do regret it."Sad story. I don't know her family and if they are very religious or something, but I do hope that this quote is not meant to be some sort of 'warning' for young kids to not come out to their family, although a certain awareness that some people CAN get hurt when telling them is good! It is reality after all!
If you were raised in a very conservative or religious environment sometimes you don't know any better then that it's 'bad' and you don't nessecarily have to be a bad person. You just don't know any better! Like some older people in the South are still against blacks. It's not right at all, but sometimes it just is!!! -
Jester2000154113 — 17 years ago(September 28, 2008 05:00 PM)
It's not her fault that it upset her mom enough to have a stroke.
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Campdmg — 16 years ago(June 12, 2009 03:22 AM)
i'm not a doctor, nor do I play one on TV, but.
I seriously doubt that her news caused the stroke. Strokes are something that build up over time. They aren't caused by things like this. If this were the case, the stroke rate would be through the roof! -
ciocio-2 — 13 years ago(January 08, 2013 05:53 PM)
How many straight people in this world "keep it in the bedroom"? I agree that, in the context of a job interview, discussing ones sexual orientation or practices makes no sense. But neither should one have to hide large parts of ones life, to coddle or assuage the sensibilities or prejudices of others. If, for instance, a bunch of employees at lunch are discussing vacation plans with their families238 ("I really wanted to go camping again, but my wife insists it's time we take the kids to D.C., and she's set up a visit with our Congressional Representative."), should someone in a same-gender relationship or marriage have to lie, or just keep silent? Just discussing mundane, everyday matters can add up to "coming out." Most grown-ups, simply by having everyday conversations, fail to "keep it in the bedroom."
When it comes to family, unless the (in this case mother-daughter) relationship is extremely, tragically distant16d0, eventually one will have to be honest about ones life. That doesn't mean discussing details of sexual practices. But, yes, eventually that "new friend," who becomes a "best friend," who becomes a "roommate," with whom one then buys a house together, and vacations together, and raises a child or more togetheryes, it will become clear what the relationship is, and it shouldn't have to be avoided and stepped around constantly, to coddle someones delicate sensibilities. Families (healthy, close ones) are supposed to be able to talk amongst themselves.
Multiplex: 100+ shows a day, NONE worth watching. John Sayles' latest: NO distribution. SAD.