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Jenzzyuk — 14 years ago(March 30, 2012 03:19 PM)
Darren Criss is Straight I have watched Plenty of Videos on Youtube where he Talks about Being a straight man playing Gay and even Max Adler who plays Dave in Glee is Straight we are still not sure about Grant Gustin who Plays Sebastian though
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MatttheBruinsfan — 10 years ago(April 24, 2015 02:46 PM)
To be fair, any time someone speculates about a celebrity's sexuality in public there is a very vocal contingent who'll scream that he can't possibly be gay because they find him attractive, and of course that means they know the intimate details about the life of someone they've only "met" via watching TV and buying his poster for their bedroom wall.
As a note in general, people should think back to high school and the composition of the kids who were regular participants in class plays/drama club/show choir. That's the larger pool of people that most entertainment celebrities are drawn from. If 50% or more of the guys who do
Our Town
in 12th grade turn out to be gay, what are the odds that only the straight ones ever make it big in Hollywood?
I'd like to take Darren's statements about his own sexuality at face value, as they make quite a bit of sense. I have, however, heard the rumors about him being a closeted bisexual111c and having some friction with the out members of the
Glee
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AHatFullofSky — 10 years ago(April 26, 2015 07:54 AM)
When it comes to Darren a lot of the reaction by his fans stems from a very old blind item by Ausiello, who suggested that Darren got his role on Glee thanks to the casting couch (he had his own agenda for this, which can be easily seen by how he reported on Glee then and in years that followed). It was used by fans of those who were unhappy that he was a break out actor of the season because they felt their faves were more "deserving" (mostly Naya Rivera and Kevin McHale) as well as Chris Colfer fans, who unfortunately has a section of totally unhinged people following him.
It was really ugly and it still is quite often because they just cannot let it go. I suppose it is easier to believe there's someone else to blame for your faves fails than they, themselves (in the case of Chris Colfer he either takes away his roles, like Hedwig or gets them thanks to Chris, like Hedwig, or takes away from Chris Colfer, because he's breathing. Overall I do not recommend going into those parts of the web, it's just not healthy.) Darren's fans are now used to having to deal with this garbage but it is why they're quite over-protective on occasion.
Of course the whole thing is ironic because fans do know of closeted actors in the cast of Glee and they are not "called out" in this manner precisely because they are actually closeted. As for Darren, who knows and IMO it is none of our business but those bi/friction rumors started on Blind Gossip, a site that is definitely not credible in any way.
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SCsurfguy — 11 years ago(August 08, 2014 08:57 AM)
I'm gay, and I dated women too.
All the guys I've dated, from military pilots to doctors to police officers to firemen, dated women too. A lot of them even played football in high school, and some in college.
Just because a guy says he isn't gay doesn't mean he isn't. Conversely, just because a guy says he's straight doesn't mean he is either. And actors have to be just as careful as some of the dudes I mentioned above, but for different reasons.
But saying you're not means nothing.
And dating (and even marrying women) means nothing as well. I've dated guys who had been married. And even met a couple who were married when I met them. Needless to say those latter relationships were over quick.
Lastly, I had friends who didn't know I was until I told them. They didn't have a clue. So just because someone is friends with someone and says they're not means nothing either.
Now, is the dude gay?
Who knows?
If he says he isn't I'll respect that.
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mual1977 — 10 years ago(May 17, 2015 09:29 AM)
I'm gay, and I dated women too.
All the guys I've dated, from military pilots to doctors to police officers to firemen, dated women too. A lot of them even played football in high school, and some in college.
Just because a guy says he isn't gay doesn't mean he isn't. Conversely, just because a guy says he's straight doesn't mean he is either. And actors have to be just as careful as some of the dudes I mentioned above, but for different reasons.
But saying you're not means nothing.
And dating (and even marrying women) means nothing as well. I've dated guys who had been married. And even met a couple who were married when I met them. Needless to say those latter relationships were over quick.
Lastly, I had friends who didn't know I was until I told them. They didn't have a clue. So just because someone is friends with someone and says they're not means nothing either.
Now, is the dude gay?
Who knows?
If he says he isn't I'll respect that.
But at the end of the day, who knowsabout anyone really?
It goes both ways. Just because a guy says she's gay doesn't necessarily mean he's "really" gay. He just may prefer guys. Doesn't mean he's exclusively attracted to them. Most men have a strong sexual preference for one gender, but that doesn't mean that there aren't those who can be attracted to both. Preferences can also change. Thus, we'll always have men and women coming out as "gay", leaving their opposite sex spouse/partner. Bisexuality, especially male bisexuality, is a very misunderstood and taboo subject. Most men don't want to label themselves as bi, even though they're capable of being attracted to both men and women. I don't care what people label themselves ab68s. Actions speak louder than words/labels. -
Kaskinen — 10 years ago(May 17, 2015 03:13 PM)
It goes both ways. Just because a guy says she's gay doesn't necessarily mean he's "really" gay. He just may prefer guys. Doesn't mean he's exclusively attracted to them. Most men have a strong sexual preference for one gender, but that doesn't mean that there aren't those who can be attracted to both. Preferences can also change. Thus, we'll always have men and women coming out as "gay", leaving their opposite sex spouse/partner. Bisexuality, especially male bisexuality, is a very misunderstood and taboo subject. Most men don't want to label themselves as bi, even though they're capable of being attracted to both men and women. I don't care what people label 5b4themselves as.
Actions speak louder than words/labels.
And actions/practice aren't necessarily representative of the person's sexuality. Like the person you responded said, dating women and have sex means absolutely nothing. The vast majority of gay men around the world marry women because there aren't a lot of options for them (and even if they are, it's still difficult). Also, the claim that most men don't want to label themselves "bi" isn't necessarily true. I find a lot gay men try to use the "bisexual" label before just admitting they're gay because apparently anything is better than being gay. If anyone is likely to avoid labeling themselves as "bi", it's actual bisexual men themselves who opt for the "straight" label. Remember Boy George's Culture Club bandmate who was upset when he was revealed as being bisexual in his autobiography? He preferred to be just known as straight. Hell, even a lot of gay men I've met from working in psychological counseling still insist on call themselves "straight." I would imagine people that come out as "gay" after leaving their opposite sex partner are more than likely gay, not bisexual. When Ricky Martin came out and Oprah called him "bisexual" for his relationships with women, he specifically corrected her and said he's gay and has always been.
You made a good point about bisexuality, but I'm not too sure sexuality is fluid like you mentioned, especially for men.5b4 Also, if there is a "stronger sexual preference for one gender," the lesser attraction is likely not to be significant. When it is, I'm sure that qualifies as "bisexual."
In any case, it would a lot of easier if people just stopped lying, but we all know they can't. There's still a strong stigma attached to homosexual attraction and most gay/bi people (especially men) around the world do anything to cover it up and avoid the truth. -
mual1977 — 10 years ago(May 26, 2015 03:35 PM)
And actions/practice aren't necessarily representative of the person's sexuality. Like the person you responded said, dating women and have sex means absolutely nothing. The vast majority of gay men around the world marry women because there aren't a lot of options for them (and even if they are, it's still difficult). Also, the claim that most men don't want to label themselves "bi" isn't necessarily true. I find a lot gay men try to use the "bisexual" label before just admitting they're gay because apparently anything is better than being gay. If anyone is likely to avoid labeling themselves as "bi", it's actual bisexual men themselves who opt for the "straight" label. Remember Boy George's Culture Club bandmate who was upset when he was revealed as being bisexual in his autobiography? He preferred to be just known as straight. Hell, even a lot of gay men I've met from working in psychological counseling still insist on call themselves "straight." I would imagine people that come out as "gay" after leaving their opposite sex partner are more than likely gay, not bisexual. When Ricky Martin came out and Oprah called him "bisexual" for his relationships with women, he specifically corrected her and said he's gay and has always been.
You made a good point about bisexuality, but I'm not too sure sexuality is fluid like you mentioned, especially for men. Also, if there is a "stronger sexual preference for one gender," the lesser attraction is likely not to be significant. When it is, I'm sure that qualifies as "bisexual."
In any case, it would a lot of easier if people just stopped lying, but we all know they can't. There's still a strong stigma attached to homosexual attraction and most gay/bi people (especially men) around the world do anything to cover it up and avoid the truth.
I agree that women tend to be more fluid in their sexuality, but, like I said, most men don't want to label themselves as bi - even though they are. I feel like queer women tend to be more 50/50, while queer/bisexual men tend to almost be at the extremes of the spectrum, thus they don't see the point in labeling themselves as being any other than straight or gay.
As for people who leave their opposite sex partner always being gay, that depends on the individual. For a lot of queers being gay is a political thing. They feel like they're making a statement by focusing on their gay side. I know about "gay" guys who occasionally sleep with women and find women sexually attractive, but their overall attraction (emotional and physical) is geared towards men. If you ask them about their sexual orientation, they're going to say they're gay. They themselves know it's not the whole truth, but they just don't feel like explaining the complexities of their sexual orientation to every random person they meet. I think this is the case for a lot of the bisexual/queer people who married someone of the opposite sex, had children and then came out as "gay". Especially if they had children and a normal sex life with their opposite sex partner. If they almost never had sex with their opposite sex partner/spouse (or had a very dysfunctional sexual relationship), then I'll buy that there was no attraction there and that they're trb68uly gay. -
EveryIDHasApparentlyBeenTaken — 11 years ago(February 15, 2015 05:08 PM)
I read on one of those blind gossip websites that he's bi. He has't come out as such because it would apparently hurt his career (can't see how). The blind also said his relationship with Mia was a PR thing, in order to help him keep the image of a straight man. It didn't start out that way, but that's what it is right now a2000nd Darren hates it, according to that site. I'm sure that's all 100% true coming from such a reputable source, so I'd just accept it as fact without question. Obviously.
Personally, I don't care, who he bangs is his business. He's a talented dude, I like him & wish him the best.