Anyone out there have to live through a situation like that?
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Archived from the IMDb Discussion Forums — Firstborn
scott-sw — 15 years ago(January 28, 2011 07:27 PM)
I was the firstborn in my family. I had a little brother. My parents got divorced and my mom started dating a real jerk. I never trusted him. In fact, after getting home from school a few times, I found him drunk. I could tell he didn't like me too much, either. He came over to the house drunk a few times, calling my mom a "bitch" and yelling at her (my dad screwed around on her, but he never called her that name). The third time, I went out to confront him. He gave me a lame story about how he loved my mom and he wanted to marry her and have us be a family. I told him, "I don't believe you. If you loved my mom you would not be getting drunk and talking to her like that. If you get married to her, I'll live with my dad or my aunt and uncle. In any case, don't come back here drunk again and yell at her like that or I'll call the police." I did make a back-up plan. My dad left a gun behind for protection. I knew how to use it and kept it in my room, just in case. Fortunately, about a month later, my Mom finally dumped him. I was so glad. I was only 15 at the time and a very frightening, stressful time in our lives. Sorry to dump on the message boards, but it's something I have not shared with many people. In any case, this movie always brings back that memory.
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Jack2979 — 15 years ago(January 31, 2011 01:25 PM)
My nephews are living through a situation like that right now. Actually they have been living like that since 2006. My sister has a type - if you are unemployed, a drunk, and just an all around loser then she is instantly attracted. I have 2 nephews that have the unfortunate task of dealing with these men treating them like crap. I love them very much and there was a time that they were practically living here because they were afraid to go home. They have cried many times talking to me telling me that their mom only cares about her boyfriends, and they don't want to live with her. Last year there was an investigation on her latest suitor because my nephew said that he was abusing him (making him get up at 2am to clean the house, making him stand in the corner for 3 hours straight) obviously the investigation never went anywhere because he was told over and over by his mother that none of it was true. What frightens me the most is how these boys will probably turn out when they are adults. I let them know on a regular basis that I will help with whatever I can, but they are so used to it sadly it isn't fazing them that much anymore. That and the new guy is a tamer version of the last pos.
I don't care what anyone says, you are a shyt parent if you do that to your kids. Having a significant other is not a priority.
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saint_pat — 13 years ago(October 31, 2012 09:07 PM)
Yes! It happened to me, to my aunt, and now to my cousin. Unlike the mother in the story, my dad never kicked my abusive stepmother out so I had to kick myself out. My father now denies it ever happened and he's still with her!
My aunt moved in with an abusive jerk and put my female cousin through hell. She eventually kicked him out by which time my cousin was a wreck. Now my male cousin is married to an abusive jerk who's putting him and his children through hell.
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mistermycroft — 12 years ago(April 15, 2013 03:07 PM)
I have a distant relative who came home from the Vietnam War in the 1970s. He was married with two sons, and had difficulty keeping a job. I was very little at the time, so I don't know the exact reason.
In any event, his wife told him that she was leaving him for another man. This was in 1981. He couldn't take the stress, and he committed suicide. He was only about 36 years old.
The wife then married the new guy, and he took in the two sons. A few years later, this new guy started molesting the younger boy. The two boys went to their mother, but she refused to believe them. Later on, in his 20s, the younger son got into drugs and killed himself
The older son is now in his early 40s, a successful businessman with a wife and 2 or 3 kids. He ended the relationship with the mom and stepfather and hasn't spoken to them in over ten years.