Got into a pretty heated debate at work today. I refuse to ever physically discipline my son, which is a very rare belie
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:17 AM)
Here's a little free tip, and you will never ever need to lift a hand:
Work on your Dad-growl. It helps me that I am (IRL) a tall and severe-looking person, but a good growl will work wonders in terms of getting misbehaving children to change their ways, fast. -
Cerridwen — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 12:49 AM)
Oh, yes. My father was a military man and was quite fond of physical punishments. I don't plan on having any children, so I've no preferred parenting style, but I will say that nothing in childhood was a better deterrent than the thought of catching a beating.
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Vlad. — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:04 AM)
Not THAT young. I just don’t age but I take your point
Ever listen to Carlin’s hardcore history? In one podcast, he discusses how one hundred years back it was commonplace and encouraged to beat your kids. Good parenting back then, as life was tougher.
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:10 AM)
I grew up on the cusp of corporal punishment from one's parents becoming a bad thing, and I am in my very late 40s. It saddens me to hear that people much younger than me suffered it too.
I would say it did nothing for me other than fuel resentment/revenge fantasies. anybody who rationalizes it otherwise should perhaps rethink things.
Because to be honest, it was less about the pain inflicted than it was the shame and the dominance, -
Lilith — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 02:12 AM)
Precisely. My father has passed away (he never laid a hand on me, but had a violent temper and we would have plenty of holes punched in walls and doors and broken items in the house as well as the only time he's raise his very soft and gentle voice would be in his fits of rage, when he'd cuss something fierce and yell loudly…might be why I am a quiet person and don't like boisterous people).
However, my mother would be the one to do the beatings, and it was on the flesh, not through clothes. As I got older, I went from feeling angry towards her, vindictive, and then indifferent. We've been estranged for many years, although she's reached out a few times, and I feel nothing. I've stopped caring. I don't want to try. She's not worth the effort to reconnect. She broke boundaries and trust.
Why would parents want to hurt their children?
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Corwin — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 02:33 AM)
If it helps - for every parent there was often at least one grandparent heaping on really terrible advice. That's also from my experience as a parent.
So in part it could be that they were getting really dodgy advice and pressure.
Not that that ever excuses, but it may help explain, at least some of this stuff. -
Boris 2024 — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:07 AM)
To answer this topic with sincerity, nobody will ever lay a hand to any of my future children, but they wlll be fully indoctrinated on everything that makes the United Kingdom the great power it is.
Also, my first born son is going to be the captain of Rangers.
Hep: "I'll post a topless picture if you do the same ;)" -
尺ロㄈにモイ-ら凡几 — 5 years ago(June 26, 2020 01:10 AM)
My mom would spank me. Dad used to come at me with frying pans, step stools, or would just flat out beat the **** out of me.
If I have children, I wouldn’t physically punish them because there are far more effective forms of punishment that don’t involve harming them physically or even emotionally. I mean, honestly if I got in trouble, I was never really worried about getting hit or getting beat, I was more worried about being grounded or having something taken away from me.
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