Yes. And here's the problem with modern romances like this. Stalker aspects aside, it's hard to get behind love stories
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Archived from the IMDb Discussion Forums — The Age of Adaline
SarahRose — 10 years ago(November 23, 2015 07:13 PM)
Yes. And here's the problem with modern romances like this. Stalker aspects aside, it's hard to get behind love stories when they're not properly set up. We're supposed to believe in Adaline and Ellis as being this wonderful love story for the ages, blah blah. I mean, great, she finds someone she wants to tell, go on with, etc. I was invested in her. But the love story? They knew each other for five minutes. They got across a better, more emotional, more believable love story with Adaline and William, in just the short blurbs they showed of that.
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anatja — 10 years ago(December 11, 2015 04:39 AM)
Ever since Twiglite, people have been falling over the idea that an obsessive lover is WOMANTIC!!!!
It isn't, it is weird and creepy. Ellis was stalkerish, especially when he turned up at her home.
The film was fairly likeable except for the blah male lead.
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xanxei — 10 years ago(March 20, 2016 01:01 PM)
Yep. She would've reported him to the police after he traced her address.
That actor is disgusting with zero charm and charisma.
I divided your post into two parts to illustrate the absurdity of following the first half with the second half as if the second half somehow corroborates the first half. It doesn't matter what the actor fecking looks like - unacceptable behaviour is unacceptable behaviour. I think he's attractive and I was still disgusted by the character's behaviour because I'm experienced enough and clear-headed enough on the matter to not allow physical appeal to excuse rudeness. That behaviour is unacceptable ON PRINCIPLE, not simply because it's unwelcome in some cases. -
HarpoSpoke — 10 years ago(February 18, 2016 06:32 PM)
YeahI got that same vibe from him.
In addition to what you pointed out, he pressures her into a date at the library and starts talking about "our future" very early on (he changed it when she looked freaked outbut he meant it).
The actor didn't help any. He had a look of mild panic on his face much of the time. "Desperation" is not attractive. -
SailorRainbowKittyKat — 10 years ago(February 19, 2016 06:59 AM)
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I didn't get creepy, I just would have totally ended my pursuing of her very early. She seemed very disinterested, very cold, and he barely knew her and wanted her so bad? I'm assuming he was going by her beauty. And if she repeatedly turned you down why even bother? They both annoyed me sometimes, especially when he told her he loved herlike wtf? He barely knew her!
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MyNameIsMulder — 10 years ago(March 11, 2016 11:16 AM)
He was a little bit pushy but Adaline was only trying to push him away because she knew eventually he will grow old and she'd be left heartbroken again, so was reluctant to let him in but clearly she wanted something to happen.
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londonviaparis — 9 years ago(June 01, 2016 09:36 PM)
Let's set aside the movie plot for a moment. If a man, good looking and wealthy or not, was this persistent with me after I clearly told him no numerous times, even if I was kind of attracted to him but didn't want to be with anyone, I'd be concerned. A lot of folks keep talking about what it was like "in their day", but that's neither here nor there. Rape, abuse, rape culture are all very real and something most women have in the back of their mind. I've never been in a situation that was frightening for me, but I once went to an all day event and there was a young man who decided he liked me. He waltzed up to me and introduced himself and chatted for a few minutes before I excused myself. That was fine, but later he asked me to dinner and I declined. He persisted and ever polite, I said no. For the rest of the day I would catch him watching me. That made me uncomfortable and I felt sick. He didn't cross any lines or say anything rude, but I didn't like being watched. Does that make me a cold b? I don't think so.
The behaviour Ellis displayed honestly led me to believe he would prove to be a "villain" in the film. I was shocked when he turned out to be her love interest. I was on edge the entire dinner scene at his place, especially after he threatened to pull the donation earlier. I thought he had slipped drugs into her drink. He tried giving her more wine when she said she was already tipsy. Heck, the fact that he had her come to his home instead of going out made it that much more difficult for her to extract herself if she needed to. He was pushy and it frightened me. Am I afraid of everything as these older folks commenting here seem to think? Absolutely not. Can I spot manipulate behaviours and potentially dangerous situations? Yes. You may have heard a news story a few days ago about some women who saw a man slip drugs into his dates drink. They warned the woman, and she said the man was a friend and coworker. Not only that, but prior to the date he had her come to his building and leave her car there so they could ride together. He had planned to make it difficult for her to refuse going home with him. Manipulation. Women aren't being paranoid witches. We're being cautious. When a woman is raped, the blame often falls on her. So excuse those of us who found Ellis' advances creepy. We know better. -
ficoce — 9 years ago(June 21, 2016 07:54 PM)
She, 109 years old and hadn't been laid in 40 years. He, an old fashioned romantic that brought flowers. Together, they went out and looked at old stuff together. Their idea of a wild weekend together was at the folks house playing Trivial Pursuit.Neither seemed to ever have a cell out looking for proper behaviour on social media, so were just as happy not knowing any better.
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andrewpi7 — 9 years ago(September 14, 2016 12:00 AM)
The movie is listed as a drama and romance. The odds are more likely that some woman may believe everything Ellis did is real romance and if they play hard to get like Adaline then they will get the guy they want.
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AylaMM — 9 years ago(November 13, 2016 05:10 PM)
I thought this too. He was outrageously obsessive and possessive from the get-go, despite not even knowing her at all. Just based on seeing her, he decided "I must have her", giving her all sorts of unsolicited and unwelcome attention, stalking her, literally
CHASING
her. Insanely predatorial.
I don't get the people claiming "it's okay" or "women like it" or whatever the hell they're trying to suggest. They must be absolutely insane.
If an attractive man were to do this to me, I'd be extremely terrified, because
that man is probably used to getting what he wants
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