For you, can someone hot not be your type?
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 05:43 AM)
I doubt he's talked to you in years. Even if he does, you loved the guy, and you're still clinging in the friend zone lol… and no one puts you there but yourself. You know what I did when I realized things were really over with my ex? I deleted her and blocked her. Close that ****ing chapter. You'll feel better… and people are deluding themselves when they say they can be friends with an ex or unrequited love. It's bullshit. Don't even try to tell me otherwise lol.
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Aoabai — 7 years ago(September 06, 2018 11:17 AM)
By the way, you’re doing it again. You’re objectifying women. And no, objectification doesn’t just have to be sexual.
However, what you are referring to is PREFERENCES. These socially hot girls don’t have the physical preferences you like, regardless of them being ideally hot girls. It’s kind of like… looking at a very slim, small tits, small everything, tan, hairless everywhere, blonde hair, blue eye beauty… that is socially hot. But, this particular guy prefers brunettes. It’s like that.
This has nothing to do with you being weird, special, or anything like that. Just because you are “rejecting” these women doesn’t mean anything because you’re not really rejecting them. You’re faux rejecting them. Even if you happen to reject a woman that happens to be socially hot, it doesn’t somehow make you a better person.
I also think you’re not attracted to these women because they don’t match your looks. We tend to be attracted to the same level. For example, two people who are overweight most likely would betogether because they meet at the same level. By the way, this has nothing to do with being out of someone’s league or whatever. It’s not about that. That’s what losers says to make people feel as ****ty as they feel every day of their lives. So, it’s not about that. It’s just common sense, culture, social grouping, psychosocially, It’s just how it works. Sometimes it doesn’t work like that. But, in most cases it works like that. Point is, I think that’s why you’re not attracted to these women because… they are not at your level. You have a different look to you, so you need a different woman, that isn’t the stereotypical hot girl.
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Vlad. — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 12:44 AM)
Fugazi likes to view the world as a set of cliches. Everyone is a "type" and there are no individuals. He is friends with losers and nerds, not with jocks. He almost had a threesome with a BBW and a petite girl. So, to Fugazi you're either a high school stereotype or a porn genre, depending on your sex.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 01:29 AM)
Nah. I do it either way. I probably lie less than the average person. And when I do lie, I often admit to it later, and often it's to protect someone.
I mean, when someone tells the truth about a lie, that lends credibility… because ain't no one never lied befo. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 12:45 AM)
Not doing it on purpose. Just how my mind works.
I never think I am special. Humans are basically a few variations of the same, including myself. Also, I'm not usually rejecting these women. I just don't approach them. They probably feel the same way about me or worse and I am fine with that lol. Never said it made me a better person. Not sure where this assumption is coming from.
I'm actually attracted to a lot of opposite things. Like I have small eyes, and I love big eyes. I am slightly tall at 6ft, and I prefer very short girls. I have a small mouth with small teeth. I like girls with big smiles and lips. I have a prominent chin and the girls I like tend to even sometimes lack a chin.
When it comes to weight, it varies. Depends on the girl.
Resentment? LOL Most of my friends are women. But isn't that what all misogynists say? lol Seriously though, those enemas must be really helping you pull a lot of stuff out of your ass. I'm curious. What is this based on?
It's actually the opposite. I have trust issues with males. Males bullied me. Males sexually abused me. Males were never people I felt comfortable around. With most straight men, it's all about one-upping and phony chest pumping. It's annoying. I mean, I love friendly **** talking and rough housing with dudes, but for the most part, masculinity sickens me. However, I am not in line with some feminist schools of thought. The blanket of what is considered objectification by some covers way too much. -
Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 10:50 PM)
Normally, people who go on and on and ****ing ON about not liking stereotypical hot girls tend to make sure that they convey that they think they’re like that because they’re special in some way. Sure, you didn’t convey that in this thread, but you sort of have conveyed that level of arrogance in other threads. You just have arrogance to you, dude. You objectify women, not just sexually.,.. like I said, but as a whole. And on top of that, you are arrogant. Granted, you could be worse. At least I can carry on a conversation with you and you’re not psycho. I just think you have some resentment towards women, especially when you made that “fat girl, slim girl thread. You just make general, hateful statements about women.
I’m glad you have friends that are women. I think some men on here can’t get near women without freaking out. But, your behavior on here, even if it’s just ON HERE… shows a lot and I think you need to get that in check. Go to therapy or something. Says the girl that wants to kill herself. But, seriously… you seems like a decent guy overall. It’s every once in awhile that I see a thread, or post like this that my eyebrow is raise and I’m like, “WTF”. So, that is why I suggest going to therapy. Also, you said therapy helped you more than it helped me, that is why I mentioned it. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:07 PM)
I admit that I am arrogant in this setting… I'm a self-righteous bastard, and I like rubbing that in the face of the trolls here. I'm not like that IRL… not saying that matters. Maybe my actions here should be judged as there are. I don't ****in know. I just think this place's appeal is being a little offensive and kinda letting some of that **** out. I don't think it should cross a certain line, but if it's just offensive words in teh confines of this place, I don't see it as an issue.
Threads like that are just me letting my mind wander. If I only posted **** like that about women, you might have a point, but I have made similar posts and threads talking about other things, just free associating. I don't follow these lines of thinking seriously. It's kinda like when you see a fat guy with a fedora and neckbeard. Most people form stereotypes… I do too. But when interacting, I put those thoughts aside and humanize the person. I would argue that direct actions or lack thereof matter more than words and thoughts, and in those, I show respect towards everyone on an individual basis unless they give me a reason not to.
I don't see why this would warrant more therapy. That's a little dramatic. -
Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:26 PM)
Therapy isn’t being dramatic. It’s therapy. It’s not a big deal. It’s not like you’re going to a psychiatry or even a psychologist. And I din’t ask you to put yourself into a mental institution at the safety of all women. Now, that would be dramatic.
I just feel like a big way of knowing how someone’s true intentions is how they act online. And you have made that arguement before how you “dick around” on here becuase you’re just being a “troll” giving it back to the trolls. But, randomly talking about women that I’m assuming are personal in your life ARE NOT trolls on here, so I’m not sure how that really goes with your argument. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:42 PM)
I mean, don't disagree. I've been to it for depression and ****. I just don't think this warrants therapy especially since I don't seriously follow this way of thinking. It's kinda like when you see a ledge and you think what if I jumped off… or when someone pisses you off and you feel you can rip their heads off. It doesn't mean you have suicidal or violent tendencies. We all have these thoughts that flow in and out.
I agree actually. I just read the situation differently. I think this place and IMDb before acts as a kind of Loki inhabiting spirit for me… like the mask in The Mask. But just think, this is the worst of me. We all have dark and problematic sides, but we don't act them out usually. My dark side is having a few stereotypes in my mind and other comparably minor things. Yes, these things are still a part of me, but I feel like having an outlet for it like this place is a healthy way to pass them.
I also think it's a reaction to how I often am IRL. I am always giving people the benefit of the doubt and being really thoughtful. Part of me just wants a break from that and be emotionally and mentally lazy because I already have tons on my mind. Again, it's not just stereotypes of women, but everyone, even if you don't happen to notice those.
The women I'm talking about usually aren't people I know well. Like some of them who were in mind with these posts were my sister's former co-workers. Snobby assholes who took advantage of my sister's niceness and helpfulness.
