Is it "just" England, but for now?
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Lilith — 2 years ago(May 16, 2023 08:00 PM)
Yep, absolutely! I totally recognize that. I mean, she has always rambled with her word salads, but since she stopped her meds, she's gotten so much worse.
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Lilith — 2 years ago(May 16, 2023 08:15 PM)
I understand, believe me. I'm just as frustrated with her, especially because she won't respond to the questions that might actually shed some light on what's going on. She dodges them quite selectively, avoiding topics that would allow anyone to help her. It makes me wonder if she likes being "sick" and enjoys keeping herself "unwell" for whatever attention that brings to her, as well as what that allows her to get away with.
One of the biggest frustrations of mine is that I've got such strong suspicions that she may have Cushing's, and if she got tested for it, and I mean properly tested (not saying that she doesn't have it because no doctor ever told her she had it based on some random bloodwork she may or may not have had many, many years ago), but tested now, and she tested positive and treated accordingly, that it would explain all of her health problems, and with treatment, all of these problems would go away.
Why would any sick person not want to go to a doctor and get tested for something if it meant maybe, even remotely, they could get cured of all their ills if they got treated? This baffles me beyond belief!
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frtt wins3, pHd — 2 years ago(May 16, 2023 08:21 PM)
i guess u can't figure out mentally ill people and if she has cushings and it's not being treated it can lead to serious things. diabetes is part of it. going off her medication for for her mental illness and for her diabetes is seriously harmful for her. she can't think reasonably. i don't think her family abandoned her. i think cuz she's stubborn and wants what she wants they gave in to her and now she's pissed cuz it didn't pan out the way her fantastic mind thought it would. she can't be reasonable cuz she's mentally ill.
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Lilith — 2 years ago(May 16, 2023 10:07 PM)
I think you put that in a perfectly eloquent way.
Two ways to look at this, and one way won't be popular. The first is that it would be lovely if she had a tight-knit family and they stepped in and kept her close to home and made the necessary calls when her parents died. She needs to be under supervision. It would be great if they reached out to her to help. Barb is the only one who has tried to help her, yet both this board and Christina attack her every chance they get. If Christina isn't going to let Barb in and not listen to her, Barb is limited. I do wish she'd at least call for a welfare check on her.
However, the second way of perceiving this is legally her extended family has no obligation to take her in and look after her, especially given that they have their own families and their own extended families to take care of and everything that entails. They've seen Christina for themselves and know how stubborn she can be and they may not really be prepared to take her on, or necessarily want to. The amount of time, effort and responsibility it would take might be realistically exceed what they can provide.
The bottom line is that despite the times Christina asks for help, she never actually wants help.
"Your emotional state is not my responsibility." – Warren Smith