Technically her husband is gay, but is he?
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DonNova — 18 years ago(October 31, 2007 02:23 AM)
Yeah but it's to bad nobody can answer the question of whether or not he has dated transgenders in the past. If he has dated transgenders in the past, then this makes him gay, if he hasn't then who knows. I've stated this before, but I know this obvious point will be overlooked again because it is most valid and negates all comments that say he is not gay.
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cosmogirl1002 — 18 years ago(October 31, 2007 10:09 AM)
" but his penis is penetrating a vagina"
Not true. His penis is not penetrating a vagina, it's a manufactured piece of skin that was formerly known as a penis shpaed into something that resembles a vagina. He is gay because "candis" is a man. -
DonNova — 18 years ago(November 05, 2007 08:31 AM)
First off, I'd like to say that by no way am I agreeing with Midnight, because I know she is a biggot, but I would like to say this:
Vagina- The passage leading from the opening of the vulva to the cervix of the uterus in female mammals.
That is exactly what it says at dictionary.com about that. I personally don't think a person is gay if they happen to fall in love with someone the same sex as them and it is the first and last person they fall in love with of the same sex.
Like in Brokeback Mountain, I didn't think Heath Ledger's character was gay, I think he was in love with Gyllenhall's character for his inner qualities, especially since Ledger never had any sexual relations with another man except for Jake. But I do think that Gyllenhall was gay since he was having flings with other men.
Pretty much, being homosexual and heterosexual is all about attraction to biological and physical characteristics of a person, and has nothing to do with the inner qualities of an individual. -
cosmogirl1002 — 18 years ago(November 06, 2007 10:53 AM)
"because I know she is a biggot"
That is funny to me. You say I am a biggot because I speak the truth and you can't handle it so you label me a biggotROFLMAO. That is a way to escape the truth and reality because you and others like you refuse to accept it. He never had nor does he now have a vagina. As I stated it is manufactured and fake therefore it is NOT a vagina. Especially when you use the dictionary's explanation. He doesn't have a cervixlol. You are either born with one or you don't have onePERIOD!!! -
BStruthandlogic — 18 years ago(December 08, 2007 09:09 AM)
I just love the way some people who happen to be bigots or racists always say they are "speaking the truth" to justify their racism or bigotry.
Like they say, you can't change facts and the fact is, there is bigotry in this here commentary. -
BugisStreetAnnie — 18 years ago(January 26, 2008 05:04 PM)
I read an article about her in the October 9th, 2007 issue of the gay magazine, THE ADVOCATE, and she never mentions having had the surgery (I thought she was post-op, too, but apparently not). She stated her boyfriend DID know she was transgender when they met (to answer some of the past questions about whether or not he knew)
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mikewithaymakeup — 18 years ago(January 08, 2008 03:02 PM)
well look at it this way he's got to be at least bi sexual, cause she has had surgery and is now a woman! no make sex parts anymore so head be star8 cause he would be actually having sex with a woman!
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trans_action — 17 years ago(May 08, 2008 09:32 PM)
I think people get way to caught up in the genetalia thing. Yes it's a big deal, but the fact is - drumroll - Gay men aren't attracted to anything remotely feminine.
I am a transsexual, I have an extensive dating history as both a gay man, and now as a transgendered woman, and I can tell you, men attracted to transexuals are not gay. I don't care what anyone else thinks, because I know the truth. I have plenty of gay friends, and there would have been no shame if any of my boyfriends were attracted to, or had left me for a man - and given they would have every opportunity to be with a man - none have ever shown the slightest interest in men.
This issue means nothing to me personally, because if the men that were attracted to me identified themselves as gay, I wouldn't care. It doesn't matter to me who they see themselves as, but the guys that see me are exclusively attracted to only woman and transsexuals, some prefer women, some prefer transsexuals, but none are into guys.
As I said, I have enough gay friends and am involved in the gay community to know that gay men are not ino transsexuals, I have enough gay friends that i've hit on drunkely to know it's not going to happen. Also when I transitioned I was still dating a gay man, who loved me dearly, but could not stay with me as he was no longer attracted to me.
I'm sure people will still have their belief regardless or try to pick flaws in my argument, but I know the truth, and the fact is, these guys are not gay. -
BugisStreetAnnie — 17 years ago(May 09, 2008 09:31 AM)
Actually, I think many guys attracted to us "Trans Action" want to be transsexuals themselves. Over the past 25 years of living as a female, I've heard too many stories from TS's who said they were dating a guy, then he started taking female hormones and some have even gone on to have the surgery. I'm now involved with a guy who once confessed to me he wanted to live as a "lesbian" (he too denies he is gay). But I have also dated other men who are bisexual: they're attracted to all three; women, transsexuals and men. It gets kind of complicated.
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trans_action — 17 years ago(May 09, 2008 07:54 PM)
I agree there is a large bi-sexual following, but to be honest i've never experienced anything like what your mentioning, nor have my friends - maybe we're mixing in different circles? I'm from Australia and the guys here are very macho, and the men i've dated here are no different to any of the other hetero guys I know.
There are alot of guys that want to be penetrated, but i've never had much to do with those sorts of guys, I like my men all man, just as they expect me to be all woman.
A close female friend of mine who's boyfriend is straight, said even though he would never sleep with me he thought I was sexy, so go figure. -
chaos_2003 — 17 years ago(July 01, 2008 08:48 AM)
Honestly, I don't know why it matters. If they're attracted to each other then let it be. Sometimes love doesn't come with a definition. Like someone mentioned Brokeback Mountain: Ledger's character was only attracted to Gyllenahl's character ..not any other men. But a big point that I think needs to be mentioned is that some people are born as both a female and a man (not sure if this was the case with Candis). In that situation whichever gender they choose (or forced into) may not always be the correct one for them, but the body biologically is both genders at the same time. For those against transI hope it gives you something to think about.
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Suskis — 17 years ago(October 21, 2008 12:48 AM)
I have transexual friends and I experimented crossdressing myself, so I think I can say something about this.
In my opinion, unless someone falls in love with a transgendered person without realizing it, there is always something fetish about it.
I don't think that surgery can turn a man into a woman. It can make a man look like a woman, but this is quite a different matter.
I think however that wondering if this makes someone gay or not is a completely pointless question. There is no need to apply labels to people. There hasn't ever been.
'What has been affirmed without proof can also be denied without proof.' (Euclid)