Actually Indians aren't racists till it comes for interracial marriages/dating. It's a very big deal in family if one of
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noir-male — 17 years ago(September 26, 2008 01:44 PM)
I find it hard to fault the new wife; from the accounts Ive read she didnt know about her husbands former wife or that he had a daughter. Id imagine with all the publicity surrounding the trail she would know by now. I wonder how she reacted when she found/finds out that shes married to a man who would abandon his own child.
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vinnychase — 17 years ago(October 05, 2008 11:49 AM)
I'm Indian/male and while my parents are not those conservative types that say no to any girl who is not Indian, I think that in the back of their minds they would be saying no if I ever dated a black girl. Personally I don't find black women attractive so they probably wouldn't need to worry about that, but I find it funny how my parent's probably wouldn't care if I dated a white girl. Probably because I have a quite a few family members/friends who are married to whites. And it really has nothing to do with skin tone either though, my entire family is light skinned to the point where people think we're either Italian/French, it's just I've never really been interested in black women.
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southpaw2k1 — 17 years ago(October 05, 2008 07:13 PM)
^What if the black woman has the complexion of Alicia Keys or Jasmine Guy? Would that be more acceptable? I'm just asking because, if a few family members of yours are married to whites, and almost all of them are light in tone, then maybe, it really does have to do with skin toneat least a
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yazmnsmom — 17 years ago(October 08, 2008 11:27 PM)
andsan3 Great to see your story!!! We have 3 georgeous children a daughter age 12 and two sons age 4 and 1. My husband's family comes from humble means. He is the only one of his family to make it here. They always accepted me, as well as the Indian community here locally. I'm sure there are some that have their opinions, but they've never been rude enough to say it. My husband went to and topped the number one Engineering College in India, many say one of the toughest in the world (IIT). Most Indians (at least the ones we've come in contact with) hold Education in high honor. I think their initial acceptance was in part because of this. My 12 year old is much like her father as well as my 4 year old both reading fluently by age 2. (I think the one year old is working on it). The 12 year old has already received a scholarship to take classes at our State College.. I think that broke the ice, but we have been married for almost 14 years so they know us well and don't care about our mix at all. Our children have grown together and race just isn't an issue. Peace and happiness back to you. I wonder how many others are out there?
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andsan3 — 17 years ago(October 09, 2008 03:46 PM)
Yazmnsmom, great hearing that you and your family are doing fantastic and from the looks of things, your children will certainly be successful. Our daughter (as well as myself) are learning Punjabi and we are becoming quite proficient! Everyone in my husband's family accepted me and we never had problems within the family with regards to our cultural differences. Within the community locally, everyone seems accepting yet I did, in the beginning, noticed the extended glances if you will. My response to that was "Take a pictureit will last longer." (smiles) Like your situation, nobody was ever rude enough to say anything directly to us. My husband's family also holds education in the highest honour. They always joke about two Ph.D's living in the same household! It's been a wonderful life, I have to honestly admit. I did meet one couple where we lived several years ago where the woman was African American and her husband from India. Very nice couple but I lost touch with them over the years. So there are more of our marriages out there just not in greater quantities. My father-in-law used to always tell my husband and I, "Ah, here comes my gorgeous African American daughter and handsome Indian son!" Rest his soul, he was such a loving man. Please keep in touch, Yazmnsmom. It's nice to hear from you and to also share our stories! Always, peace and happiness to you!
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countys32 — 17 years ago(January 28, 2009 12:09 PM)
Ive read a fair few of the post on this thread and yours and yazmnsmom are one of very few that have a nice positive tail but why pray tell was it important to mention you both were PhDs thats a very Indian thing to say because its bordering on showing off which really wasnt necessary and which Indians do anyway becuase they love showing off
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andsan3 — 17 years ago(January 28, 2009 01:15 PM)
Countys32, sharing that one is educated is not showing off. If you blatantly flash it around for the sake of placing others under you, then it's appropriate to say that an individual is "showing off". Aren't you a bit prejudicial in saying a comment is a very "Indian" thing to say? I don't know about you, but to me, that statement sounds very offensive and in poor taste/judgement.
I don't recall throwing any of this around nor do I recall Yazminsmom doing the same. Although I cannot speak for the poster, I am definitely going to speak for myself. A better choice of words for you would entail being all the wise without wrongly implying/immediately assuming that someone is, as you say, "showing off" because of an innocent statement with regards to one's academic status. -
likerash — 17 years ago(February 19, 2009 12:07 PM)
Interesting thread
Dougla children have really great skin complexion and their hair is wow, shiny and really nice, the children from what i see mainly stick to their black roots but it's interesting dougla children's dominant features are most of the time east indian, which is pretty weird
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Torian717 — 17 years ago(October 06, 2008 08:18 PM)
http://www.hindustantimes.com/StoryPage/StoryPage.aspx?id=1b95bcc5-d3a 2-468f-9f3d-f85aa3a92b8e&&Headline=Indian+gets+life+term+for+k illing+of+son%27s+black+wife
I posted this in Mississippi Masala forum as well. But I'll post this wherever I can. Us humans need to be better. -
cleveland_1999 — 16 years ago(June 24, 2009 03:58 PM)
When I started this thread over four years ago, I wanted to get a feel for how people felt about this particular and I have received tons of useful info regarding this subject. I would just like to thank all that have ever responded, whether others felt their comments were positive or negative. The beauty of the world in which we are supposed to live in is freedom of expression. Thank you all and if you feel the need to post more comments, by all means continue!!!!!!
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CelinaJaitley — 16 years ago(October 25, 2009 12:41 PM)
flick_feedz_u
, you troll practically EVERY single board of any Indian/other South Asian celeb on this site bashing Indians and calling them ugly and Indians are the the ones who are the most racist in the world? Get real. We know you're a bitter Middle Eastern girl who thinks Middle Easterners are better than everyone else and angry that Indians even have the audacity to prefer themselves over your kind.
Just one example of 90% of your posts:
i think the question is why are Indian women not! haha i live in an area infested with Indians and i have never seen a remotely pretty Indian woman - what i have noticed about them is that they never seem to take a bath! -
CelinaJaitley — 16 years ago(October 29, 2009 07:18 PM)
I'm not stopping you from expressing your opinions. I'm calling you out on your hypocrisy and racism. You say Indians are the most racist5b4 in the world, but 95% of your posts are trolling under a board of person of Indian/South Asian origin and spewing bigotry. Pot calling the kettle black much?
And let's not talk about what's "true" here. Didn't you just LIE on another board saying that you were "half Russian and half Jordanian" while saying that you're "Persian and Armenian" before on another and just Persian on another before that? You're a self-hating racist who keeps changing her ethnicity and wishes she was white. The "hahahahahhaaaa" renaming of the title is completely appropriate, especially after you deleted your post on the other board after I outed you.