Too Controlling Wife?
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Zando777 — 16 years ago(October 10, 2009 04:03 AM)
She stopped taking the pill without telling him he was under the impression she was taking the pill. Clearly an act of deception, and unacceptable.
When a guy is banging random broads, then yes, he needs to take proper precautions to avoid preganancy if he wants to avoid the possible consequences. (Or make sure the girl can't locate him.) But with his wife, he should be able to rely upon her honesty regarding her birth control practices. -
savageddreams — 19 years ago(November 23, 2006 01:21 PM)
Yeah, seriously. A lot of people on here seem to have issues with the opposite sex. I wish people would just understand. Men are not evil. Women are not evil. PEOPLE are evil. Okay, not evil. Sometimes selfish, frustrated, and careless, not necessarily evil. People do and say things all the time that are deceitful, it's human nature. Men don't do it more than women, and vice versa. If you disagree, see a therapist. Simple as that.
As far as the original topic, I know that when I tell a friend or my siblings about an argument I had with my spouse, I can't tell them what precisely happened. If I'm upset, I'll subconsciously make myself sound like the good person, even if it was (mostly or all) my fault. HUMAN NATURE. Anyway. I'm lucky to have a spouse with similar views, and if we were confronted with a friend who brought over an extremely disagreeable partner we would probably tell them where the nearest motel is.
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queenhelly — 19 years ago(February 24, 2007 11:40 PM)
Getting back to the original question, she blew her stack when he suggested Davis and his girlfriend stay over without first discussing it with Kristy. Then she has the nerve to tell him to promise not to get mad when she tells him she hasn't been taking the pill for 3 months. The point isn't whether or not he wants kids, it's about her doing something without consulting him that effects them both. She was furious about Davis staying over without her input, yet it's ok for her to work for 3 months on having a permanent resident in the house without at least letting her husband in on the plans ? Look at it this way, Jake wants to be a writer, would she have been cool with it if he said "hey honey, I quit my job 3 months ago, I've been working on a book every day when you thought I was working don't be mad"
Anyway who cares, all I know is Alec Baldwin was such a hottie 20 years and 50 pounds ago ! -
Kastore — 17 years ago(September 01, 2008 05:44 PM)
I think you make the best point (that hasn't been deleted, at least) and it really illustrates the double standard presented in the film.
Personally, and from a man's perspective, Jake
was
stupid and out of line to invite Davis and his girlfriend to spend the night. While Kristi used the opportunity to show her true potential as an hysterical bitch, Jake probably had it coming for thinking with his other head. Which only raises a further point that, in the given situation, just about the worst thing Kristi could have done was make Jake sleep elsewhere in the house. . . . .
But, Jake only made a decision that might have affected the couple for a single night. Kristi made a decision behind her husband's back that would have affected the couple for the
rest of their lives
. Why isn't Jake allowed to blow his top and punish his wife in some way for that? Instead, he eventually goes along with it? Something wrong with that picture.
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drxcreatures — 16 years ago(October 21, 2009 08:48 PM)
(My wife reacted the same way when Alec Baldwin slept over at our house. Women just have this "thing" about Alec Baldwin and his sleep-over habits.)
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Zando777 — 16 years ago(October 10, 2009 04:06 AM)
Most bitter deadbeat dads are that way b/c the woman misled the guy and deliberately got pregnant.
If women could be saddled with a life-long obligation they never asked for the way men are, they'd probably be singing a different tuen. -
MelivaME — 14 years ago(July 26, 2011 10:59 AM)
Huh?
I am sorry, but in the case of this film if Jake really didn't want to get pregnant, he would have taken matters into his own hands. He would have worn a condom, or heaven forbid- told his wife he wasn't going to have sex unless she was on the pill. But he didn't. He went along with it to her face, while having a breakdown in his own head.
I do think her being off the pill for months without telling him is underhanded, and deceitful. But so is him drooling over every single woman in this film that isn't his wife. A huge subtext of this movie is about love and fidelity and to me its more of a comparison between how having a baby effected their love for each other.
And women CAN be saddled with a life-long obligation they didn't ask for. Not every nation, state, province etc. has liberal abortion laws.
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tokyostreetkiller — 13 years ago(April 03, 2013 01:42 PM)
Why should he have been wearing a condom if he was sure his wife was on the pill? Wasn't that the whole point in her taking the pill? Now if she said she didn't like the pill or something then sure, he should wrap it up. And of course it's a big deal for men, we don't want our pay to be garnished for the next 18 years regardless of what the mother makes or does. Yeah that's perfectly fair! lol But whatever, she should have told him about not taking the pill. She owed him that much, they are married after all.
Also, I didn't like how she made him sleep on the floor. Really? How childish is that? If my wife told me to sleep somewhere other than my bed I would tell her she's high. What gives women the right to think they can say stuff like that? I blame Oprah. We are adults, not 9 years old.
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