Would Monica have considered…
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SilverLexiGirl — 9 years ago(January 01, 2017 01:52 PM)
Money (or financial security, really) is an aphrodisiac to ALL HUMANS. I've never met one man in my life who wouldn't date a rich womanIt just doesn't happen as often because fewer women are independently wealthy the world over. But imagine if as many women as men were richThen men would be called gold diggers too finally! LOL
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reaseltbim — 9 years ago(January 03, 2017 01:51 PM)
actually looks are more important to men.
wealth is the most important thing for women, dont believe me? check this study
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2619439/What-women-men-REALLY-want-survey-shows-men-care-looks-women-need-partner-rich-ambitious.html
http://www.medicaldaily.com/when-it-comes-finding-love-traits-men-and-women-look-long-term-partner-vary-wildly-353302
men have no problem dating a very poor woman, but most women wouldnt want to date a poor man.
women are not as caring about looks as men, while men really could not care about a poor woman as long as shes hot. both genders are shallow in different ways -
Hanz-Willhelm2 — 9 years ago(January 04, 2017 09:27 AM)
Actually I can't imagine being with anyone if I'm not attracted to them. I see some of these young 20 year old women with 70 year old guys. YUCK!!! If some old, wrinkly, 70 year old woman (but rich) was after me I physically couldn't even bring myself to touch her. It just grosses me out. It is incomprehensible to me how someone could have sex with someone they find physically hideous.
That's why I've never been able to get my mind around prostitution. I'm sure some of the men are decent looking but there must be tons of absolutely tons of hideous, fat, awful looking guys that will pay. I just can't get my mind around doing it with someone you don't find attractive in any way but rather someone who is revolting.
As someone else pointed out men are more into looks and as I've laid out my feelings..I've got to find them attractive in some way. I'd say this would be much, much lower with men due to the way they are wired differently.
I still recall Anna Nicole Smith (the Playboy Bunny) marrying that shriveled up, pale, crypt keeper looking 90 year old guy. Are you kidding me? How can she even touch him intimately without vomiting? So, I suppose I get the attraction to money to a point but after that point goes to far I can't even relate as a human being how some "financial" relationships even happen.
LOOK:
http://i.dailymail.co.uk/i/pix/2013/05/31/article-0-1A133A16000005DC-374_634x395.jpg
I just can't get my mind around that. How, how, how? I don't care how rich someone is. How can you physically even go through with that? I'm totally dumbfounded. There has to be some physical attraction.
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catbookss — 9 years ago(January 01, 2017 05:43 PM)
Every man, if that's what they think, which I doubt, is wrong if they think money is a powerful aphrodisiac for every woman.
In fact, about Pete specifically, his money wasn't an aphrodisiac for Monica. She liked him, thought he was a good and decent guy and liked him a lot, but she just wasn't attracted to him, even after she found out he was very wealthy. Something, I forget exactly what, happened afterwards (I think they kissed? or something like that) that made her change her mind, and she became physically attracted to him. The deal-killer was his ridiculous obsession with involving himself in becoming some ultimate physical champion, for which he was obviously unsuited, and was very dangerous.
I agree with Lexi, wealth (and therefore, supposedly, security and ease in life) is a perk. If you had the choice between a wealthy woman, with whom you were attracted physically, mentally, and emotionally, and with one with whom you felt the same, but wasn't wealthy, which would you choose?
I have a friend who has very little money. He's a dear and sweet person, with a great heart. Very kind, very sensitive. His now-girlfriend has quite a lot of money, has built her business into a multi-million dollar business. She's a go-getter (and good for her), but he isn't; it's her nature, and not his. But it's very clear to me that they love one another, and are suited, and I would never accuse him of being a gold-digger, because he's not. His previous wife wasn't wealthy; that's not what he's looking for. It was sheer luck that these two hooked up, with her being the wealthy one, instead of him.
Many women who
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gold-diggers (and I'm sure men too), end up paying dearly, if money is their aphrodisiac and main attraction to their spouses. What was the name of that film with Julia Roberts where she married an extremely controlling, abusive, and very wealthy man, and finally escaped? I used to call it Pretty Woman Part II, but can't recall its actual title at the moment.
This could happen with either a man or a woman. As Lexi said, it more commonly happens with a woman, as men still have in general more monetary success than women do. But the principle holds, either way.
I've had a number of wealthy men interested in me over my life, but it never trumped what I felt in my heart, so I didn't marry them, or even get involved for very long. Had they other qualities I was (and am) looking for, I would have. -
SilverLexiGirl — 9 years ago(January 02, 2017 12:27 AM)
What the hell is wrong with being attracted to financial success anyway? Is it any different than being attracted to big boobs? I mean, all people have desires and biology tells us that we're hardwired to pursue the most optimal mateBoobs tell men that a woman is reproductively healthy and financial success tells a woman that a man will support his children. Needs are needs.
The dudes who accuse women of being money hungry are often the same dudes who would pick the girl with double D's. Lol -
Painbow — 9 years ago(January 02, 2017 09:36 AM)
If you had the choice between a wealthy woman, with whom you were attracted physically, mentally, and emotionally, and with one with whom you felt the same, but wasn't wealthy, which would you choose?
That's a different thing.
What we're talking about here is an ugly wealthy person and a gorgeous poor person. Men will invariably go for looks, women for money. -
SilverLexiGirl — 9 years ago(January 02, 2017 11:33 AM)
Not me! I would go for a good looking poor man over a wealthy ugly man any day of the week. Women care about sexual attraction too! The holdup though is that many good looking men are also arrogant jerks which means women, who really don't want those arrogant jerks, have to seek out nicer, more compatible men Aka less attractive men. Then, to compensate for the men's lower attractiveness, women will also look for other qualities and perks, such as financial security.
It's really just a natural thing thing we humans do in order to choose a mate which actually has something to offer us. Otherwise why bother having a mate at all? Especially for womenWe women get stuck raising the kids, taking care of the home, and often putting off our own goals and ambitions to have a family.So if we're going to do all of that, don't we deserve the best man we can find?
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reaseltbim — 9 years ago(January 03, 2017 01:53 PM)
they did a study about this
men care more about attractiveness in a long-term partner, and women care more about wealth and resources.
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2619439/What-women-men-REALLY-want-survey-shows-men-care-looks-women-need-partner-rich-ambitious.html
http://www.medicaldaily.com/when-it-comes-finding-love-traits-men-and-women-look-long-term-partner-vary-wildly-353302 -
cecelia_lisbon — 9 years ago(January 02, 2017 08:51 PM)
She asked if one woman may have been influenced by money, which is totally the same as saying EACH AND EVERY WOMAN ON THE PLANET is a gold digger.
I guess you have NO IDEA how enraging it is to be informed that money is an aphrodisiac to you because you're a woman. Freaking POS. -
cecelia_lisbon — 9 years ago(January 04, 2017 07:33 PM)
Just to let you know, calling us that word over and over doesn't hurt us, but it does make you look horrible.
By the way, I don't get off on insulting mens' virility, but you forced my hand by being the biggest cold shower I could have imagined; I figured there must be a reason you so actively enjoy turning off women.
