Lynette and the control freak label
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(April 30, 2016 06:57 AM)
In all seriousness what would have been the reaction if Lynette did some of the things the other wives did?
Remember Bree getting Ben circumcised behind Orson's back when he was dead set against it (and pulling she gets to make decisions because she's blood and he's not, yet he is supposed to love the child as his own and be the responsible father taking care of him)? There was some outcry, but does anyone think it would have been much worse if it was Lynette?
What about Susan paying off the truck for Mike when he said he didn't want her to? After a little pouting from Mike at first after he finds out it ended up in a sweet cuddle moment in the end. Would that have been the same if Lynette did the same or would Tom have acted like she cut off his package and placed them in a crystal jar to display on a trophy case?
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(August 19, 2016 07:39 AM)
Sometimes I wondered if the writers actually wanted us to believe this or if the scapegoating and having it thrown in her face so much was a reason she was supposed to be 'desperate' (like the show's title). I mean if they really wanted me to buy she was this controlling shew one would think her poor picked on hubby wouldn't have wound up with his way so often. What they said about Lynette was a poor match for what we actually saw.
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ADBruns — 9 years ago(August 19, 2016 09:16 AM)
I think being married to Tom would almost turn one into a control freak though out of necessity. Like, I understand that you have dreams. But Tom had a new life dream every other season it seemed like, wanting to act like a young, single, childless person. Sorry dude, you have a big family, you can't indulge all of your whims.
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(August 19, 2016 09:57 AM)
When it came to Tom chasing his midlife flight of fancy of the month and being happy go lucky he didn't acknowledge enough it was Lynette's strength that made it possible. He'd constantly call her control freak but how would he have been able go after what he wanted with a woman who didn't want to run the show? He needed that about her. If he appreciated her I could have liked him a lot more, but he had to act like the very trait that benefited him was Lynette keeping his package under a glass jar as if it was on display on her trophy case.
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(December 29, 2016 12:20 PM)
It just seemed like every time Lynette wanted A and Tom wanted B he was applauded for going for it and Lynette was the big bad control freak meanie who wouldn't let Tom have his way. Never mind that his way almost always involved a sacrifice on her part or having to have his back in case he fell flat on his face. It seemed over 3/4 of the things Lynette pushed for didn't even involve anything she tried to get for herself. It involved avoiding Frisbees to the head. She doesn't try to get too much for herself. She doesn't even take her fair share.
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(January 02, 2017 10:40 AM)
What manipulations? Are you referring to the promotion fiasco because I found it very interesting the boss resorted to out and out lying about what Lynette actually did do and say to justify pulling the promotion from Tom. Any theory on why the truth couldn't have stood on it's own? Doesn't seem an accident to me what happened was jacked up.
Also interesting is Janie's manipulation seems cool with folks. It's fine if the boss's wife stuck her nose into her hubby's business to get Tom the job in the first place but it's wrong for Tom's wife to stick her nose into the situation even when it was her own business.
And what of Tom when he inserted himself into Lynette's job when she was on maternity leave and told Carlos she wasn't going to want to come back? -
EluriaSK — 9 years ago(January 11, 2017 01:39 AM)
He didn't invent anything. He said exactly what she said to his wife. Yes it's right that his wife wanted to do something good and recommend Tom because he deserved it. There is no backstabbing in her behavior. But Lynette did it on purpose to hinder his job chances. She did it many times. Good that Tom forgave her that.
Tom didn't steal Lynette's job. He thought that she wants to care for the baby. -
ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(January 11, 2017 03:53 AM)
He most certainly did invent what Lynette said and did. What were the words Lynette used to beg if it's legitimate to accuse her of that? She didn't even ask. Running into someone by chance is not running to them. Not even close to Lynette's exact actions.
As for Tom thought Lynette wanted to stay home and care for the baby, no he hoped she did. That's what he wanted her to do. Lynette said and did nothing to indicate that she wanted that and was crystal clear her intent was the opposite.
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bubblegum_jenocide — 9 years ago(January 30, 2017 06:11 PM)
I can't speak for everyone, but for me, personally, sure, I sometimes bitch about certain "flaws" in my marriage, or with my husband as a personnot because I'm particularly bothered by them. Far from it. I just do it because, it's there. I may even like it.
And I think Tom was the same way. He knew Lynette was a control freak. He knew she emasculated him. But he didn't care. He was okay with it.
But I also remember Tom being the breadwinner, going to college, opening Scavo's, playing in a bandin the end, he actually got to do a lot of what he wanted to do. I think the jousting between Tom and Lynette was more foreplay than anything else.Pidder Padder? Make my Heart go Boom Bap and Then We'll Talk!
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ksouthworth68 — 9 years ago(January 31, 2017 03:58 AM)
I honestly saw it as much more than just bantering or jousting. It went beyond mutual back and forth playfulness. It seemed to me there was a very specific goal in mind on Tom's part. He used it to guilt Lynette until he got his way.