Is that really so wrong?
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liscarkat-2 — 13 years ago(January 27, 2013 05:08 PM)
Sorry, but what you say is not a 'fact'. The success of such a relationship depends upon the personalities of the two individuals who are involved. Having the relationship is not an indication of being 'emotionally stunted' or 'crazy' or having 'serious issues'. However, it looks like you have some hangups about it yourself, so you should definitely avoid being involved with anyone who's not your age.
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lulupalooza — 11 years ago(November 04, 2014 06:33 PM)
That doesn't mean that it actually is. There are countries and cultures where it's the "norm" for men over 70 years old to marry girls as young as 10. Doesn't make it right. Also, it was once the "norm" for white people to own black slaves in the U.S. Now we know that it is wrong to do so.
Historically, the public's perception isn't always normal and healthy.
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m_smink — 13 years ago(January 29, 2013 03:50 AM)
I love how these 'psychologists' put labels on things and then generalize everything. No two couples are the same, not everything is 'textbook'.
just because you see a lot of men and women with these problems, does not mean that every soul out there is the same. Sure 19 and 35 is a big gap, and it might be hard, but I'm sure for some couples it works and is this gap not something that cannot be overcome. -
doggie_rodriguez — 11 years ago(November 19, 2014 04:44 PM)
any female who is looking to enter a long term relationship with a 35 year old man has some psychological issues
That is one of the stupidest comments I've ever read on IMDB (and this site is filled with stupid comments).
People have different life experiences and mature differently. It's possible that a ridiculously mature 19 year old could be as emotionally mature as a 35 year old that is sort of a late bloomer.
On the surface, yeah, it's probably not ideal for a 35 year old to be dating a 19 year old. However, it's certainly not a psychological problem for them to date. -
AlwaysBored123 — 13 years ago(February 10, 2013 05:11 AM)
It's not 'wrong' necessarily, but I don't think it's healthy. A lot of people will give you the 'age is just a number' spiel but I think that's ridiculous. There is a reason we have drinking laws, age of consent laws, age for voting, for joining the military etc. I doubt very much you are in the same place that you were at 19, that you were as experienced or as mature as you are now. People grow and dating someone who hasn't had the chance to grow as much as you is tricky and not some arbitrary thing that can or should be shrugged off.
At 19 you are legally an adult and are at an age where you can make choices about who you want to be with. But just because it's not illegal and not something that's horribly wrong doesn't make it a good idea. At 19, you are entering the world, learning what it's like to be independent, basically starting your life. Why would you even want to date someone straddling the line of childhood and adulthood?
You're in vastly different places in your life and there is no way those things won't cause obstacles.
I don't have a problem with age difference but it so depends upon the age of the 'participants'. A 16 year age difference is nothing between, say, a 30 year old and a 46 year old. But imo, when one of the participants is a teenager (or had just ended their teen years extremely recently) anything more than a few years is too much for a relationship to prosper properly and healthily. -
xlangamesfl — 13 years ago(February 11, 2013 12:42 AM)
Live life and love the way you choose to. Who cares if others think it is wrong or right? If you are both happy than continue to be so. Don't stop mid smile and ask if the smile is right to begin with.
Sometimes a 19 year old can be mature beyond their years, and sometimes a person in their 30's can truly be as energetic and youthful as they were at 19. Life is short, so do yourself a favor and ignore society as much as you can lol. -
LightChild7 — 12 years ago(May 09, 2013 10:35 PM)
Yeah, I mean I'm 35 and I definitely see myself with a younger girl. Why? Because I'm VERY young at heart and most women are too serious and just aren't that interesting and seem to have lost that spark for life and love. I still feel like I'm 23, maybe that's why I need a younger girl. But yeah if a younger girl comes along and there is something real there, why would I reject her? That's just stupid. I'm not going to lie, taking a girls virginity at this age would be a little scary but if I wouldn't do it out of love some douche may come along and take advantage and that would be bad. Like the other person said it really is about two people being in the same area of their lives. But I totally feel that if real emotion and love is involved, isn't that everything that matters? Anyway the way this movie ended got me down sigh, he basically threw a shot at real love away, I definitely think it was his fear that led him astray, and at the end when he was with that girl it seemed like Elizabeth Olson's character (Forget her name) was on his mind. Anyway because he is exactly my age and involved with a younger girl, I could definitely relate. It wasn't a bad movie by any means but it was definitely a downer.
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dhshoops2001 — 11 years ago(April 10, 2014 09:53 AM)
I once had a somewhat illicit relationship with a woman in her early 20s and I was in my mid/late 30s.
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jozielee — 11 years ago(October 21, 2014 06:47 AM)
It's not so much her age that's a problem, but her point of development. She's just out of high school. Give her time to grow a little. If she was 21 or older, less under the wings of her parents, I don't think he would have had such a problem having a physical relationship with her. Life's experiences determines maturity. While she felt older inside, she talks of her older self hovering above her . . . she's still a child experimenting with life's ideas.