https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beautiful-minds/201103/do-narcissists-know-they-are-narcissists
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Dazed — 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 02:46 PM)
I guess the difference is that narcissists barely seem to think of others or at all?
Yes, or if they do think of others it's only as an audience.
I had an old school friend who was actually in retrospect a terrible friend. Well she and I lost touch, a few years ago she reconnected over social media and was so pleased to find me again that I met her a couple of times for drinks. In the entire time she talked about herself, what she had been doing for 20+ years and didn't ask me a single question.
I blocked that bitch!
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Dazed — 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 03:32 PM)
I wonder if thinking too highly of yourself and being conceited is related to narcissism, because sometimes I wonder if it’s just an act to hide their insecurities and vulnerabilities. They may in reality have very low self esteem.
I think the two are linked definitely. Like, it's not enough for them to know they are attractive, successful or whatever, they need to be constantly adored and the only way to achieve that adoration is to keep telling others how amazing they are.
It's as if the audience is the oxygen to the narcissist.
I had a friend in high school who told me that she didn’t have many female friends because she was “so beautiful and made other girls insecure about themselves and jealous.” She truly believed this was the reason. Even though she was gorgeous she believed that her appearance was the reason why and not her actual personality traits.
Classic narcissist! There always seems to be at least one like that in school. Your comments reminded me of Samantha Brick who wrote an article in 2012 saying that women hated her because she was so beautiful!
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html
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— 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 07:38 PM)This is a baseless stereotype the author is propagating as true. Society at large holds this belief that women are constantly in competition with each other when in reality it’s a media-created illusion. Women are more likely than men to compliment each other’s looks and build the confidence of other women. There is a lot more ingroup solidarity among women.
Ask any girl who has ever been in a club bathroom with strangers who tell her how hot she is
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"You had me at Elk Tartare"
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— 5 years ago(September 19, 2020 05:11 PM)When I encounter a girl who’s insanely pretty and confident I just want to talk to her and make her my best friend, even if she’s a stranger on social media. Positive vibes are contagious. The jealousy never made any sense to me.
Like you said, competition usually occurs over a guy (or girl in some cases). My ex roomie is bi and her ex girlfriend hated me just because we lived together and she felt threatened. I’m like bitch I don’t like
why are you threatened by me? Lmao
"You had me at Elk Tartare"
-Erin Wotherspoon -
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— 5 years ago(September 19, 2020 05:56 PM)It’s a symptom of basing your entire personality and self-worth on looks and how many compliments , likes and comments you get. Everyone loves to be admired but don’t let it be the source of your self-worth, or it will cripple you.
"You had me at Elk Tartare"
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Margo — 5 years ago(September 19, 2020 07:00 PM)
So all that knowledge and wisdom…did you become famous yet? Lol
https://youtu.be/iPUwtyZglQI
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MissMargoChanning — 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 02:20 PM)
Sadly, once others get to know this narcissist, the admiration fades, and the dislike is inevitable.
You asked a pretty question; I've given you the ugly answer.
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Dazed — 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 03:53 PM)
I think age most definitely factors into it, life changes us. There is also a train of thought that says very beautiful people don't need to try so hard to develop a personality.
Although in the case of my ex friend she seemed worse than ever! She said she had embraced Facebook with a passion, she loved all the likes, she documented every move she made.
Looking back I wish I'd been less self-absorbed as a youngster.
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MissMargoChanning — 5 years ago(September 18, 2020 05:54 PM)
Excuse me for butting in, but think I understand. I think that everyone can relate when it comes to our early teens and the way things were in middle school.
That is the age when we are most aware of ourselves. We want to become independent of our parents, and yet, we want to fit in with our peers. We follow the leaders, so we really aren't all that independent after all.
We are really just trying to figure ourselves out at that age, so we are naturally self centered.
The only people we did listen to were the kids we hung out with, and they were in the same boat as you… trying to figure themselves out.
You are normal in that respect.
Cold comfort at that age.
I would never want to go back to that time in life.
You asked a pretty question; I've given you the ugly answer.
Fasten Your Seatbelts….
It's Going To Be A Bumpy Night!