Poll: Can you separate sex from love?
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P.Error — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 04:45 AM)
So you meet a hot chick at a club or even at the supermarket; she comes on to you,
For me, at that point I am already in love with her, so point is moot.
I think being sexually attracted to someone is the same as loving them on a level. It all comes from the same place.
Sex without love is analogous to, IMO, having sex with someone you find repulsive that you're not into. The sex becomes a chore - unenjoyable. Why bother?
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Platonic_Caveman — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 05:56 AM)
So you agree with me but you just change your definition of love to match your sexual desire.
Sure, I love somebody for an hour while we're ****ing. But after that, meh.
Dude, I'm not gonna have sex with someone who repulses me, love or no love.
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TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 03:07 PM)
A person can love a child or a friend and sex never crosses their mind.
Love is different than sex.
As I've said, if you love a kid your sex drive is off. If you love a woman like your sister, your sex drive is off.
Older people who aren't interested in sex that much or at all feel love. -
TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 07:11 AM)
Yes.
I have done that numerous times.
I have a long history of working with criminals and I have known lots of very good looking women. I don't know many virtuous ones and I do not deal with anyone who is into shady activities.
I once turned down a woman who looked like Demi Moore because she was saying a variety of things I didn't care for.
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Platonic_Caveman — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 07:46 AM)
Hmmm. I can see if a person is very goodlooking, but completely obnoxious, that's a turn off right there. No sex.
But I'm talking about a nice lady, who you just meet. You obviously don't love her.
Would you not just have sex for the physical act alone?
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TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 01, 2021 03:04 PM)
I know what you mean.
However, I have met very few "nice ladies" especially ones who are promiscuous.
Female psychos will "love bomb" and guy out of nowhere and literally every time it has nothing to do with liking the person they are targeting.
I've had this happen numerous times and the type of woman always has some plan for me rather than is excited and joyous.
In my opinion, women are men, there's very little difference. Most men are like beta monkeys, always trying to take something, steal, get cheap self-esteem from some petty act, etc and women are no different. So, I am not inclined to be interested in much the same way that I'm not inclined to be interested in men. -
Platonic_Caveman — 4 years ago(May 03, 2021 02:07 AM)
What do you think of this though:
We all know women will sell sex for money. It's not only the fact that almost all prostitutes are female. (Sure there are male sex workers but their clients are always men.)
But we know women sleep with men to find a mate who will support her. And it's almost always the man who buys dinner because he's knows he'll get something in return.
Yeah, there are a few gigolos out there. But there are 100 times as many feminine gold diggers. lol.
So don't women use sex in a calculated sense? Like you said, they have a plan for you.
What man sleeps with a woman with the goal of marriage in mind? We don't do that. It's just casual and for the moment. But the woman wants to put her hooks in you.
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Mina — 4 years ago(May 03, 2021 02:11 AM)
But we know women sleep with men to find a mate who will support her. And it's almost always the man who buys dinner becaus
That's a damn lie. You act like we are in Victorian age or some 3rd work country where arranged marriages are culturally relevant.
Most women are independent. They have jobs. They make their own money. Have their own bank accounts and own property. And they want equal pay. -
TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 03, 2021 02:25 AM)
I agree with all of that.
It's thinking with your "****" instead of dick.
That is WAY more common than thinking with your "dick" is in males.
The guy that discovered DNA thought that maybe women are NOT evolved to have emotions. If you think about it, men romanticize women, not the other way around. Men created all of the stories where women are beautiful and lovely flowers of wonderfulness.
In reality, men are the ones that protect life, invent cool stuff, go into medicine to save people, and so on, not women.
In evolutionary psychology, the explanation for why females are small, have high voices, and so on is that men have an instinct to protect kids. So, female with the most childlike feature were mated with. Masculine females were not. So, we ended up with "sexual dimorphism" that's pretty extreme.
That means women are "children" with sexual parts.
As a side note, that issue was in Interview with a Vampire. The little girl was an "adult" trapped in a child's body. That is the way some women feel.
Anyway, if that is true and women were bred for millions of year to not develop, then what women are is an overgrown child. That explains a lot of classic female behavior.
Kids tend to not care about others and only themselves and then end up restless and not happy about much.
Meanwhile, men tend to like people who like them and make friends with others where the friendship lasts a long time. Kids tend to make friends around things like who has the ball to play with, who has snacks, etc. Kids don't have a code of honor and duty, but men do and women tend not to.
The old slang term "bimbo" means a woman that acts like a child. So, that's what I'm talking about. But, thinking with your dick is the same, but women do it WAY more. -
TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 03, 2021 03:06 AM)
The baby talk thing in relationships is an extension of what I was talking about regarding evolutionary psychology.
People art cute, including males, in order to show they are harmless like kids. The whole being cute is extremely important to mating.
I think that's pretty normal.
The daddy issue thing is serious business though when it comes to mental health. I makes girls want to kill themselves and hurt males that have nothing to so with their issues.
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TheAdlerian — 4 years ago(May 03, 2021 03:31 AM)
Cute does not equal tantrums.
Almost all normal couples act "cute" at times and do not act like Vulcans, lol.
You are talking about "childish" behave and I am talking about "cute" behavior.
Many couples call each other "honey" and "baby" and so forth.
Guys arent like "Now, Joanne, do not call me "honey" as a prelude to wanting your clitoris rubbed. You may simply say, I am in need of stimulation Chad, as I have had a significant tension build up due to work stress and hormones. Let's be clear about our needs and dispense with the immature behavior. Is that clear Joanne".
No one talks like that and almost no humans want to have a super dry set of interactions with the opposite sex.
Many relationships fail due to the current trend of females acting like males. It's not normal in the history of humanity.
Childish is a kid you don't want and Childlike is a kid you do want.
