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CharmingAss_hole — 18 years ago(September 29, 2007 09:21 PM)
"I'm a big girl, and honestly, I couldn't care less if you repect me or not."
As evidenced by your rather long-winded post.
"Because clearly, I'm happier and more satisfied with my life than you'll ever be."
Yeah that's not a closed-minded, judgmental or arrogant statement, don't worry.
"I am still 5'4" and 250 pounds. Does that mean that I'm unhealthy just because I'm built bigger than some people?"
Not invariably. But the likelihood of you facing serious weight-related health problems in the future is higher than that of a person who weighs half as much as you. It's not like you're going to drop dead any second, but it isn't good for your body to weigh that much over a long period of time.
"It just means that. I'm BUILT differently."
I suppose we all rationalize now and then.
"But I can tell you this you won't accomplish anything with nasty names like that, because no one cares what the negative people around here think."
Considering the motivations of people that partake in name-calling, do you think they measure accomplishment the same way you might?
"And, if you repect yourself, then you wont care if they respect you."
I've been trying to tell people that when they get mad that I call it like I see it. They don't listen to me, though, because they've made their snap judgment about what my words are worth. Maybe there's a secret energy that only fat people can tap into to convey abstract concepts to other fat people? -
Saxi_gal_16 — 18 years ago(September 30, 2007 06:26 AM)
Because my post is any more long-winded than yours?
Why are they abstract concepts, if I may ask? Basically, all I said is: be happy with yourself and respect yourself. It doesn't just apply to fat people. It applies to people.
And yes, I know that if I don't start doing something different to lose weight (b/c what I'm doing obviously isn't working), then I will have health problems. All I said is that I'm not going to obsess about what the people think about me. I know that I'm healthy and happy, so why should I care what someone else thinks?
It's not rationalizing. Everyone is built differently. Everyone is different. Surely, judging by your intelligent post, you already understand this concept.
And you're right.. that was probably a bit arrogant and close minded of me. But no less close-minded than all the other posts around here calling people like me discusting and unhealthy.
Ashley
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CatelynTullyDidNothingWrong — 15 years ago(August 17, 2010 08:30 AM)
"be happy with yourself and respect yourself"
As obese as you claim to be, you are not making your body happy or remotely respecting yourself by letting yourself become so unhealthy.
"I know that I'm healthy and happy, so why should I care what someone else thinks?"
Yeah, the possibility of dying before you're 30 due to a heartattack and being at least 120 pounds heavier than your tiny frame is meant to hold makes you healthy. are you serious? And yeah, you care very much; long enough to make this long, defensive, BS thread and continue arguing about it.
"Everyone is built differently"
No one is built to be obese.
"But no less close-minded than all the other posts around here calling people like me discusting and unhealthy."
No, just correct and open-minded to your arrogant, close-minded denial problem.
P.S. You are not big. You're not close to it. You're grossly obese. Admit it.
Or did I just get troll'd?
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princessveronica722 — 15 years ago(August 20, 2010 02:41 AM)
"be happy with yourself and respect yourself"
"As obese as you claim to be, you are not making your body happy or remotely respecting yourself by letting yourself become so unhealthy."
RedSaidPaisley, why can't you just let her be what she is? I mean, everyone knows she is big. If she wants to be that size then that is on her. You are not her. Why is it so important to you that she admit to being obese? Is it going to change your opinion? No, probably not. So why not just worry about yourself and let her worry about herself. You might not like it but it is her life and body. Maybe she will decide to lose weight one day, maybe she won't. But at the end of the day it is still her choice. I get it, I know what you're saying. But she is a human being and there is nothing wrong with her respecting herself. It might not seem that way to you. And I see where you are coming from but her having respect for herself is a good thing.it could be a first step for her to do something about the weight. Either way, it is her body. -
shayna1980 — 18 years ago(November 18, 2007 08:34 AM)
'. . ."It just means that. I'm BUILT differently."
I suppose we all rationalize now and then. . . .'
This isn't a rationalization. Everyone is different physically. I, too, am 5'4". Medically, my ideal weight should lie between 120 and 145 lbs. I have a very heavy bone structure, and anything less than 175 looks horrible on me. I have bones sticking out everywhere, and I look sick and anorexic. In fact, my happiest and healthiest weight (and yes, my doctors have confirmed to me that it is my healthiest weight due to my physical build) is nearing the 200lb mark. At that weight, I have a perfect hourglass figure, and I am thin enough that I can jog, run up and down stairs, etc. without extreme effort.
There have been recent studies that disprove being thin is actually healthier. Many thin people end up having more fat around their organs than fat people do. When I read the study, I was a bit skeptical at first, but when I got into fur111cther detail, it made sense. Organ fat is more detrimental to health than fat carried around your waist, hips, thighs, etc. The study was pretty general, however, stating that it didn't disprove the negative effects obesity can have on an individual. I just found it highly interesting in that it did highlight that weight alone should never be used as a factor to determine a person's general health. Part of the reason the report made so much sense to me is that it holds true for my family on my mom's side. All the 'fat' ones are much healthier than the 'thin' ones. My mom and I have always talked about that. She's a 'fat' one, and she's as healthy as a horse, though she still eats healthy and exercises regularly. And then, there's the aunt and the uncle who are at the ideal weight, who have problems with cholesterol, triglycerides, diabetes, etc.
No one here is saying being overweight doesn't put you at a higher risk for certain health issues. The point being made is that we should be confident in ourselves, no matter what size we are. Being confident is more conducive to a healthy attitude than having a poor self-esteem. And a healthy attitude is more conducive to someone actually doing something about their weight problem than a poor attitude. Positive feelings bring about positive results. -
ashleyl_87 — 18 years ago(January 25, 2008 09:05 AM)
I agree with the first person. I too am 5'4" and 250 lbs. and eat healthy. I work out everyday after class and I dance. It is not easy to lose weight. I think Nikki is a good role model for young girls. I act in plays at college and sometimes it is not easy to get in front of an audience with a bunch of skinny girls but, I have come to accept myself and think other girls should do the same.I truly feel I am happier that a lot of my friends who are under or at the average weight.
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actionmanrandell — 15 years ago(August 16, 2010 10:10 PM)
the ideal weight ones in your family probily have very physically active jobs. having an active life style tends to actually make you eat alot of unhealthy food so they are probily eating more starches and fats then your overweight family member for instance people in construction and concrete are very active and in shape yet they tend to eat so alot of eggs alot of steak and alot of high colesteral and all that in there diats take alook at mr universe contestants they work out so much that just to maintain energy they have to eat 3 to 4 thousand callories a day just to maintain themselfs so often the more physically active people eat more
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aleighchristine — 17 years ago(February 02, 2009 08:29 AM)
SO "CharmingAss hole" first off I think you should probably change your name because there is nothing charming about you or anything that you have to say. I get where your coming from because Im a smart ass too and I love it! but when there is a topic that you probably know very little about or have not experienced it for yourself you should probably keep your mouth shut. A womans worth goes way beyond the way she looks or what the number on the scale says. A woman is a beautiful cretion, and without a woman and her body you wouldnt even exist! I just continue to be amazed by people who are as ignorant as you. I think that maybe you should step back and do a little but more research before you want to leave a post about "Fat Girls". and you say that she was rationalizing by saying that she is built differently, but how so? I mean if people arent built differently, then please explain to me why it is that men and woman are completely different? If people arent built differently then how is it that one person grows to be 5'5 and another person grows to be 6'2? its because people ARE built differently! And the reason that people get mad at you for "calling it like you see it" is just that reason. You only talk about what you see or what you think you know. So, when you have some actual facts then come back and let us know!
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CharmingAss_hole — 17 years ago(February 04, 2009 12:23 PM)
"I think you should probably change your name because there is nothing charming about you"
I guarantee you would like me in person, but that's neither here nor there.
"but when there is a topic that you probably know very little about or have not experienced it for yourself you should probably keep your mouth shut."
So, which topic exactly are you referencing? Because you mention things about a "womans worth" and also about the whole fat thing. I know plenty about both.
"A womans worth goes way beyond the way she looks or what the number on the scale says."
This depends completely on context. In what scenarios are you speaking of? Because I'm not sure what words of mine you're responding to with this, but they probably had something to do with how women are generally valued much more for their physical appearance as mates than men are, and that's the reason for this so-called double standard with men and women in regards to their being accepted even though they may be fat.
"A woman is a beautiful cretion, and without a woman and her body you wouldnt even exist!"
What is the point of this ridiculously elementary statement? Without many, many things I wouldn't exist, not the least of which is a very necessary contribution from a man's body.
"I just continue to be amazed by people who are as ignorant as you."
I just continue to be amazed by people who are as idiotic as you. Although at this point, It shouldn't surprise me anymore.
"I think that maybe you should step back and do a little but more research before you want to leave a post about "Fat Girls""
What for? Most researchers agree that the primary causes of obesity are poor diet, lack of exercise and a generally sedentary lifestyle. There are other causes as well that haven't been as wholly agreed upon, with a MINORITY of cases being ascribed to genetic causes or medical conditions.
"and you say that she was rationalizing by saying that she is built differently, but how so?"
She's using it as an excuse. Hardly anyone is built in such a way that alterations of their physique are impossible. Were she to fully commit to losing weight, it would happen. Some people have to try harder than others, obviously, but the odds that she has no control over her weight are so miniscule that I wouldn't believe her were she to claim that.
"I mean if people arent built differently, then please explain to me why it is that men and woman are completely different?"
Rationalization isn't fabrication, moron. I'm not disputing the fact that people clearly come in differnt frames and with different limitations.
"You only talk about what you see or what you think you know."
So, you expect me to speak on topics that I'm not well versed in? Things I don't see or, uh, don't know?
What2000, are you like 13?
"So, when you have some actual facts then come back and let us know!"
Fact: 2/3 of American adults are either overweight or obese.
Fact: the chief contributers to obesity are excessive caloric consumption and sedentary lifestyle.
Fact: Fast food consumption has steadily increased in the US since the seventies.
Fact: There is a direct correlation between our country's fast food consumption and obesity.
Fact: The US has the highest number of available calories per person in the entire world at >3600.
Fact: If you can't see the origins of the obesity epidemic, you are an idiot.
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long_live_janis — 15 years ago(July 19, 2010 12:30 AM)
"CharmingAss_hole", do you even know how women were created to look and do on this earth? Look that up on your little factoid-list and maybe you'll get it through your head that women were meant to be a lot bigger than the norm here on earth. Otherwise women wouldn't be able to create little douchebags like you (got to have a little meat on your bones to be able to have a baby)!
