Relating to Bethany.
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SenoritaTorres — 9 years ago(November 17, 2016 12:22 PM)
I think the other guy was implying I'm a hypocrite, although I really don't see how. Me having a relationship with a man of 40 when I was 24 is absolutely nothing to do with my thoughts on a grown man shagging a teenage schoolgirl
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Authorised-User — 9 years ago(November 18, 2016 05:12 AM)
So it's entirely natural for you and Bethany to lust/love an older man, but if he were to feel the same way in return then that makes him some kind of deviant sexual predator?
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SenoritaTorres — 9 years ago(November 18, 2016 02:38 PM)
I was a teenager when I first fell for him. Looking back if he had wanted me then, I would have gone for it but at the age I am now, I would have looked back on that and realised that was very wrong of him, given he was the adult and I was the child- but he didn't. He had no idea I loved him, granted, but he never would have gone there with me at the age of 15 or even 16/17, he just wasn't a pervy type of guy. Nothing happened until I was a fully grown woman of 24. Had he reciprocated when I was a teenager of 16 or so then yes, he WOULD have been very wrong to. I may not have seen it back then, but yes. So I am no hypocrite, I have an opinion and I'm sticking to it, please try not to make excuses for your own questionable urges.
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Authorised-User — 9 years ago(November 18, 2016 03:26 PM)
I'm just asking you to explain your logic that apparently it is normal and healthy for 16 year olds to be attracted to and potentially fall in love with older men/women, but (and this is where you have to explain) it is wrong for men/women to feel the same way? I don't disagree that many would agree with you, but can you explain why it's apparently so inherently wrong?
You've missed the point of my second question.