Probably at least 35% of sexual harassment claims are false.
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Lilith — 6 years ago(August 05, 2019 10:10 PM)
I agree with you that psychopathy and sociopathy are far more common in society that people realize. Narcissism is as well, but we have to be careful randomly tossing out medical terms randomly because we don't like someone's behaviour.
Psychopaths and sociopaths tend to make excellent CEOs because they have no emotional investment in how other humans are affected. There's a total disengagement and lack of empathy to any human emotion. Some are vindictive, others are passive and just cold and calculating.
Narcs ruin lives of people they get involved with, and if they procreate, they tend to make the worse parents.
It's not as rare as some people may think.
Sadly, a fallout with the #metoo movement is you will find women willing to manipulate the system as a sense of power and control over men, and in doing so, they devalue legitimate victims.
I'm simply presenting this: You have no way of knowing her history, but if she was traumatized in the past, she can get triggered
(I mean this in a legitimate way, not a snowflake way)
and for her, (not necessarily "normal" people with healthy upbringing and lives), that set her off.
There's no way to know if she's being manipulative, or if she might, as you suggested, perhaps have some type of mental illness.
Even more reason to use extreme caution.
It's too bad that your intelligence and wit could be used against you because those are qualities that, in my opinion, we're losing as people rely more and more on social media and less and less on interpersonal interaction.
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J-Curl-BiggernBlacker — 6 years ago(August 06, 2019 02:29 PM)
Yeah, intelligence and wit draws good and bad people to me. Has it's down sides, too. I used to be tone deaf to people's impression of me–Never really cared of their impression of me at all really if only to a slight extent–which meant that I would wear my quirks on my sleeve and not hide them like most people hide their quirks. This meant that I ostensibly got saw as "weird" or "quirky." This meant that if a narc and/or psychopath wanted to pin something on me, I was an easy target because my open eccentricity made a go to person if something went wrong.
Narc and Psychos are VERY manipulative and pick their targets carefully. I'm not as tone deaf as I was in college and before, but I'm still fundamentally me as personalities do not change (they actually intensify with age). This means I'm still a target/sponge for narcs/psychos that want to cause chaos and blame someone else.
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Lilith — 6 years ago(August 05, 2019 09:18 PM)
Can I ask you a question? Where did you go on vacation, and what did I mention to you about your trip?
I hope it's really the real you and not an artificial Pinky, because the real Pinky is the best type of Pinky.
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TheBookBears — 6 years ago(August 05, 2019 09:25 PM)
It happens all the time, sad to say. And I agree with others, do not touch anyone in the workforce whatsoever and it doesn't matter what the reasons are. Though, handshakes and light pat on the shoulder are generally accepting, don't do anything more. You could walk up to a person of either gender and say, "Excuse me?" or "Hey" or "Hello, how are you?" without touching them. There are many ways to communicate with anyone without physical contact. If the women don't know you and you touch them, they will get uncomfortable and they can get you into trouble. Sadly, in any society, women's words can be acted as a "laws" meaning if they claim you touched them inappropriately, they will sadly be believed, like in the situation they put you in.
The smart way to do this is to don't go near them and don't talk to them in any way, basically ignore them. If they like attention, they will get annoyed. And try to stay in the range of the camera so that way, you'd be able to have evidence to back up your claim against them. Also, if they try to persuade you so they can get into your pants (sexual favor, if you will), don't continue in that path. Oh, trust me, look up "Brian Banks" and read his story. You will understand how false accusations can have multiple impacts in your life.
You can also try to talk to the manager and ask him/her for advice how to manage in the workplace. But since they already did the damage, I imagine you probably won't last long in the place where you're working in so speaking to the manager and explain the situation would probably be the best course, even with the risks of getting fired.
False accusations are never fun. Oh, as you probably didn't know this, tickling someone is a form of sexual harassment. When I first learned this, I thought it's the stupidest thing I ever heard. I mean, jeez, are people that sensitive? But sadly, it's the truth.
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Damien Thorn 666 — 6 years ago(August 05, 2019 09:49 PM)
While it is true that a lot of sexual harassment allegations in today’s day and age could get ruled as false, I don’t know if I believe that over a third of them are spurious. I’ve noticed that sometimes even saying hello to someone of the opposite gender can get someone to pull out their gynocentric sexual harassment whistles; in my observation though, it’s often because of them having a tight comfort zone within their social bubbles.
Still, sexual harassment isn’t an issue that should be taken lightly, so I agree that it’s best to remain mindful by not touching other people in the work place, EVER; the same goes with doing anything that could get constituted as sexual harassment in any beholder’s eyes. The only time that I’d ever make physical contact with someone would be to give someone a high five or a handshake, as those are accepted gestures within our culture; however, I would only give them one if there was a direct invitation for me to do so.
“There are no atheists in foxholes, eh?”-Keith Jennings from the Omen.