South Asian girls in relationships with white guys?
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coolaree — 15 years ago(June 20, 2010 07:49 PM)
I'm not a girl or South Asian, but from observation I very rarely 'see South Asian girls with white (or black/asian/ whatever) guys (Then again I dont actively look.)
but 'Indian guys with white girls, I;ve seen alot. (In Australia).
I see now, judging from these comments, it could be because of culture, religion and family and stuff, slight double standard maybe regarding males/females
Anyway I enjoyed the movie
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LiveTogetherDialAPhone — 15 years ago(July 11, 2010 11:12 PM)
I don't understand the racist mentality of many traditional immigrants I mean, if you're moving to a country where the overwhelming majority of the population is not your ethnicity or religion, do you honestly expect your lineage to stay "pure" forever? Maybe your children will marry into your culture, and if you're "lucky" maybe your grandchildren might, but even that's a stretch. Sooner or later, your descendants are going to be assimilated into your new country, unless they move again or something. Look at the United States Find anyone whose ancestry goes back in the country 150+ years, and you'll be hard-pressed to find many who are 100% anything - including the Native Americans.
What is it, then? Do they see their immigration as being a temporary thing, assuming that one day their family will go back to their land of birth? It can't just be stupidity. -
Asim0721-1 — 15 years ago(July 16, 2010 04:45 AM)
the thing about immigrating is that they dont really move to experience the western lufestyle but for providing for their families. Its all about familiarity and how the community sees you. In my family (pakistani) here in the uk, hey would prefer you to marry a pakistani, but slowly things are changing. my borther married a bengali and my parents were okay with that. i dont know about south asian and white but religion and soical stigma about marrying someone from "outside" is seen as wierd.
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sokkertenngrl-1 — 15 years ago(December 17, 2010 11:56 PM)
hmm One should not always blame the South Asian side of a relationship for the relationship to not work out. Like someone said, it works both ways.
Also, the reason for the low numbers of interracial marriage can also be attributed to the fact that many white guys may not like asian/indian girls or only like white girls. That's a big reason why I feel there are more South Asian man/White woman relationships than the opposite.
I met a white French boy who I became infatuated with, but he felt people should be with their own kind Chinese with Chinese, French with French. So needless to say, my hopes of him ever liking me back were useless, and that's when I felt I should just date/marry within my own race, so as not to be rejected because of something I cannot and would not want to change. Mind you, this wasn't the only experience of something like this happening, it's happened almost all the times I've fancied a white guy. And I live in a very liberal community(or so I thought).
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hollywoodsuprstar — 15 years ago(January 07, 2011 09:55 AM)
I am in the USA and i've noticed that lot of South Asian woman prefer White men, and South Asian male prefer white woman.
Seen it, its very common here, and people are okay with it..because its America (a big melting pot)
South Asian Americans are just modern thinkers, if parents object then they just move out on their own and have their own life.
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David_Brown — 15 years ago(February 26, 2011 08:31 PM)
Jess is a very different "South Asian Girl" than most. She is essentially a prodigy, who is simply too good at soccer, to follow her parents rules, and be happy doing it. More importantly, she is honest about who she is, and knows what has to be done to get there. Her Father, was wise enough to let her follow her dreams, and by letting her go to Santa Clara, and date Joe, she will not rebel, and stay in California (As I can imagine Jules will). Instead, she will get her degree, then come back home, play soccer for England in the Women's World Cup & Olympics, and be an asset to her family and community. By the way, this was hinted at by Jess at the airport, and stressed at the very end with Joe playing cricket with Jess's dad.
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Lolawoo — 14 years ago(January 01, 2012 07:31 AM)
My family are South Asian (Muslim, Palistani) they are hypocritically religious and cling on to their conservative values and ideal and they are to be blunt racist - its an understatement to say that they way they are fustrates me.
My first boyfriend was white, and we had a great relationship. His parents knew about me but I couldn't tell my family because they'd never accept it. They eventually found out and demanded that I break up with him - I didn't. Why would I anyway? He was a great person and I loved him, I would never break up with someone just because my parents told me too, and I'd encourage everyone else in a similar situation to do this as well.
Regressive, archiac traditions only fuel my desire to change this. One thing that I've learned after many attempts to challenge my familys bigotry is that they will never change, but the older generation will die out soon enough.
Nothing to lose but our chains, we have a world to win