This topic has come up a few times, mostly in posts by Monicah and Sophie. I've been hearing it a lot from young female
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— 4 years ago(June 07, 2021 04:23 PM)Monicah, I didn't say it was. Show me where you think that's what I said
I don't understand why it's so difficult to get the point across that I think it is UNREALISTIC to expect men to not look at a woman dressed in a sexy way. It's pretty normal behaviour!
Yes, it would be bloody wonderful to have a world where women were not raped, groped, followed, had obscene comments made or just made to feel uncomfortable and who knows maybe it could happen one day but I don't see it, that sounds bleak I know and let's hope I'm wrong.
I need to add that not all men are creepy scumbags, sometimes they're just responding to an attractive woman.
You think I'm old and don't get it, but I do. Dressing up, planning your outfit, putting heels on, doing your hair and make up whatever, is all part of being a woman, an enjoyable part. There's nothing wrong with it and who doesn't like being told that they look gorgeous? Here's the thing, I think that you do enjoy the male attention you get, so why not be honest?
You're a very attractive young woman Monicah, I have told you this before but I hope that you think of yourself as more than just that. -
— 4 years ago(June 07, 2021 05:34 PM)
You are saying me being a feminist was ironic which I take issue with since there’s nothing I did or said that’s contradicting with me being a feminist
I stand by that, because as I said above I don't think you have been honest about
why
you post photos of yourself more of less naked. It's clearly an invitation for men to look at you and admire you, you have even said you enjoyed the attention and that's great, but it follows that if you are dressing for men, that isn't a particularly feminist behaviour.
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dbentley666 — 4 years ago(June 07, 2021 05:57 PM)
You seem to want feminism to mean whatever is convenient for you. It's a historical movement, with specific turning points and goals, not a grab-bag for What's-Good-For Monicah today. To post semi-nude pics on a message board might be feminist, but only if you re-define feminism as total freedom for one woman to do whatever she wants regardless of consequences. You need to do some reading.
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dbentley666 — 4 years ago(June 07, 2021 06:11 PM)
The idea that women should have as much sexual freedom as men have always had is a relatively minor variant of feminism, typical of yuppy aspirations in the rich countries of the West. In other countries feminists are happy if ordinary women are not killed and beaten and raped, or are given even half the average male income. To set up women's sexual freedoms as the crucial area of women's rights would strike many women as frivolous and counter-productive. It would be a bit like a man saying that traditional male rights to rape women have been taken away, and that he wants to fight to have them back. For many women from traditional societies, for a woman to be able to walk the streets without being molested is a huge deal. They would see people like you as anti-feminist, in that you are encouraging men to sexualize women.
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blocky — 4 years ago(June 07, 2021 01:46 PM)
yeah it's ****ing sad. talking about how flawed men are all the time is really depressing and dark and dragging everyone down bc there's just no escaping the predatory nature of men, amirite.
tho fixation on men becomes unhealthy, after a while, so how about we talk more about how women are?
disparity rules the world, just pick a side, ****er.