For you, can someone hot not be your type?
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Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 10:50 PM)
Normally, people who go on and on and ****ing ON about not liking stereotypical hot girls tend to make sure that they convey that they think they’re like that because they’re special in some way. Sure, you didn’t convey that in this thread, but you sort of have conveyed that level of arrogance in other threads. You just have arrogance to you, dude. You objectify women, not just sexually.,.. like I said, but as a whole. And on top of that, you are arrogant. Granted, you could be worse. At least I can carry on a conversation with you and you’re not psycho. I just think you have some resentment towards women, especially when you made that “fat girl, slim girl thread. You just make general, hateful statements about women.
I’m glad you have friends that are women. I think some men on here can’t get near women without freaking out. But, your behavior on here, even if it’s just ON HERE… shows a lot and I think you need to get that in check. Go to therapy or something. Says the girl that wants to kill herself. But, seriously… you seems like a decent guy overall. It’s every once in awhile that I see a thread, or post like this that my eyebrow is raise and I’m like, “WTF”. So, that is why I suggest going to therapy. Also, you said therapy helped you more than it helped me, that is why I mentioned it. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:07 PM)
I admit that I am arrogant in this setting… I'm a self-righteous bastard, and I like rubbing that in the face of the trolls here. I'm not like that IRL… not saying that matters. Maybe my actions here should be judged as there are. I don't ****in know. I just think this place's appeal is being a little offensive and kinda letting some of that **** out. I don't think it should cross a certain line, but if it's just offensive words in teh confines of this place, I don't see it as an issue.
Threads like that are just me letting my mind wander. If I only posted **** like that about women, you might have a point, but I have made similar posts and threads talking about other things, just free associating. I don't follow these lines of thinking seriously. It's kinda like when you see a fat guy with a fedora and neckbeard. Most people form stereotypes… I do too. But when interacting, I put those thoughts aside and humanize the person. I would argue that direct actions or lack thereof matter more than words and thoughts, and in those, I show respect towards everyone on an individual basis unless they give me a reason not to.
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Aoabai — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:26 PM)
Therapy isn’t being dramatic. It’s therapy. It’s not a big deal. It’s not like you’re going to a psychiatry or even a psychologist. And I din’t ask you to put yourself into a mental institution at the safety of all women. Now, that would be dramatic.
I just feel like a big way of knowing how someone’s true intentions is how they act online. And you have made that arguement before how you “dick around” on here becuase you’re just being a “troll” giving it back to the trolls. But, randomly talking about women that I’m assuming are personal in your life ARE NOT trolls on here, so I’m not sure how that really goes with your argument. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:42 PM)
I mean, don't disagree. I've been to it for depression and ****. I just don't think this warrants therapy especially since I don't seriously follow this way of thinking. It's kinda like when you see a ledge and you think what if I jumped off… or when someone pisses you off and you feel you can rip their heads off. It doesn't mean you have suicidal or violent tendencies. We all have these thoughts that flow in and out.
I agree actually. I just read the situation differently. I think this place and IMDb before acts as a kind of Loki inhabiting spirit for me… like the mask in The Mask. But just think, this is the worst of me. We all have dark and problematic sides, but we don't act them out usually. My dark side is having a few stereotypes in my mind and other comparably minor things. Yes, these things are still a part of me, but I feel like having an outlet for it like this place is a healthy way to pass them.
I also think it's a reaction to how I often am IRL. I am always giving people the benefit of the doubt and being really thoughtful. Part of me just wants a break from that and be emotionally and mentally lazy because I already have tons on my mind. Again, it's not just stereotypes of women, but everyone, even if you don't happen to notice those.
The women I'm talking about usually aren't people I know well. Like some of them who were in mind with these posts were my sister's former co-workers. Snobby assholes who took advantage of my sister's niceness and helpfulness. -
Fugazi — 7 years ago(September 07, 2018 12:35 AM)
I agree that you don't decide. I'm just saying that finding someone nice to look at for me is not the same as me being attracted to them. Maybe there's a better way to word this. It was also right before bed when I said this.
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Fugazi — 7 years ago(October 05, 2018 11:21 PM)
I don't mind pretend narcissism or someone who is obsessed with fashion or fixing their hair, but actual narcissists suck. What I mean by pretend is when people jokingly act that way. Like I do that sometimes, but in reality, I see myself as middle of the road and boring, being an introvert.
As far as intelligence goes, it depends, but I generally like someone slightly smarter than I am, but not unrelatably so… or someone who is equally smart, but in a different way than I am. Emotional intelligence matters more to me than IQ. Being really dumb and obnoxious is a huge turn-off.
I think I already covered looks. It's variable. My preferences are usually for a certain type that's not always conventional, but there have been women who have charmed me enough to not care about their looks at all, and if I fall in love, nothing else matters.
️ Christina 1986-05-20 
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