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ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 12:32 PM)
I could never get away from a cock tease fast enough. I want to operate on a level field. I don't want to dance back and forth, always guessing.
There can sometimes be something in the feminine psyche that is struggling and rears its ugliness via mind games and control. And I am not up for the challenge.
You don't need to be, you are not straight. It's not your problem from a sexual aspect. Its not meant to be understood, and not by males at any rate, even the straight ones. Their douchyness and denseness is base regarding the need for negative femininity as an external. The male/female sexual dynamic I find broken and even disturbing. The wholeness gets separated.
By any chance, have you ever seen Malle's "Murmur of the Heart", Toasty? It is a wonderful film.
I have only seen 3 of Malle's English language features:
Pretty Baby
,
Atlantic City
and
Damage
. I adore
Atlantic City
and it is actually my choice for best picture of 81.
Norman! What did you put in my tea? -
I love hutch — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 12:46 PM)
You don't need to be, you are not straight.
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I know. I just think about stuff like this a lot and I wonder if it's this aspect that turned me off women. I really have no idea why or how I became gay or if I was born gay or if my mother's neediness repelled me or any combination of the above and I know it doesn't really matter and I know that I am just very happy that I am gay. I have never doubted once in my life that I wasn't gay. I'm just an analytical person is all. But I ALWAYS find your insights and your overall POV about heterosexuality and homosexuality and how gay men are better integrated than straight men fresh and interesting. I don't believe I have ever come across your expressed ideas about all this every before. I enjoy it when you share here.
I've always had "Atlantic City" as something I need to see in the back of my head. Pauline Kael loved it. I do know that Burt Lancaster won all the major critics' awards that year.
"My life is over. I might as well dance with Johnny Slash!" -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 12:58 PM)
I really have no idea why or how I became gay or if I was born gay or if my mother's neediness repelled me (and she was super needy) or any combination of the above and I know it doesn't really matter and I know that I am just very happy that I am gay.
You came kicking and screaming out that way. There is no other reason or meaning behind it. Straight boys would have had similar mothers and the scary part is, they may have been sexually attracted to them too. Controlling and dominating mothers are really man haters and want to emasculate their sons. Majority would also naturally assume their boys are straight.
My mother appears the tad opposite to yours. What a simpleminded creature she is. In fact, she is the worst of what negative femininity can represent. Its all phony virtue signalling, neediness and putting on a facade of sensitivity and sentimentality that is nauseating and warped in its projection. She was also a smother. She acts like she thinks people think she should act. Absolute zero degree empowerment and no authentic sense of creativity or aesthetic beauty. In fact, both my parents have dragged each other down, due to no accountability or self-awareness about themselves. They are just really there for each other now.
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I love hutch — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 01:14 PM)
Controlling and dominating mothers are really man haters and want to emasculate their sons.
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This is definitely my mother. Totally emasculating. When I hit puberty, she felt betrayed. It was all about her. This was some super effed up stuff. Again, I wonder if the castrating mother complex has anything to do with my obsession with big balls.
Straight boys would have had similar mothers and the scary part is, they may have been sexually attracted to them too.
This is a highly disturbing thought and one that I have thought about before. I think this is the main theme of Bertolucci's "Luna". And I don't believe it holds much back. BB had some sickness inside him. (not passing judgment)
Reading your last paragraph I was trying to picture what your mom might seem like to outsiders and the first movie character that came to mind was the mother from "Muriel's Wedding". She was a sweet lady, but completely beaten down by trying to be somebody who she wasn't. And definitely no self-empowerment or self-awareness going on here.
My parents fed off each other's worst qualities also. Terribly co-dependent.
"My life is over. I might as well dance with Johnny Slash!" -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 01:21 PM)
The co-dependency is what is both tragic and pathetic. It is clinging and desperation. People always need help at some stage or other, but the extremity of it leaves them lagging behind and also drags down those who may have to be their to pick them up.
I need to see
La Luna
. I also need to see that one with Ellen Burstyn about the American woman in a Greek prison who killed her children. Can't be bothered looking up the title just yet.
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I love hutch — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 01:33 PM)
"A Dream of Passion" – I am glad you mentioned it because I have always wanted to see it myself. Very much have I wanted to see it. And it has been impossible to find! But, I just now looked it up here and it's now up and running and in English! I am excited! The movie got mixed-negative reviews, but Burstyn's performance was generally regarded as excellent. And I love Melina Mercouri, who plays the actress who plays Medea.
We should both make it a point to watch the film, compare notes.
Golly, the sun is up! I've got to hit the sack!
"My life is over. I might as well dance with Johnny Slash!" -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 02:57 AM)
We should both make it a point to watch the film, compare notes.
Yes, if its on here to watch I shall. However, I won't right away depending on my mood due to the heaviness of the theme.
La Luna
is on here too, so can watch that one as well. I love both Burstyn and Clayburgh.
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I love hutch — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 01:00 PM)
Their douchyness and denseness is base regarding the need for
negative femininity as an external.
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I feel like you are conveying something quite deep here, but I am not quite getting it. If you could elaborate a little here, I would appreciate that very much.
Is it something like straight men's need to objectify women?
"My life is over. I might as well dance with Johnny Slash!" -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 28, 2022 01:07 PM)
The femininity isn't in balance within themselves. They look for it outside of themselves and from observation, many straight guys just get with women due to a pressured image society puts onto them. They think its what they have to do and is expected. Straight dudes I have been friends with have told me this.
Its about toeing the line and being brainwashed. Straight guys, especially married ones with kids, are also likely to get accepted more easily and get the promotions vocational wise. It is the projected "normalcy".
Norman! What did you put in my tea? -
Cheeky — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 12:27 PM)
Men are so much simpler!!!
Not so much when you want a relationship and they're laser focused on getting you in bed
If we take the time to see with the heart and not with the mind, we shall see that we are surrounded completely by angels ~ Carlos Santana -
I love hutch — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 05:26 PM)
I know in the end it's going to be person to person, but from my POV this has been the case.
Of course, like everybody else, my perceptions are colored by my two primary gender role models, also known as "Mother" and "Father". And my mom was a LOT more work than my dad. A whole lot more. I could write a book.
"My life is over. I might as well dance with Johnny Slash!" -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 10:44 PM)
my mom was a LOT more work than my dad. A whole lot more. I could write a book.
I found the opposite when younger, yet as I got older, I saw my mother superseding my father in this area in leaps and bounds. My dad has just pretty much let his bitterness and obstinance get in his own way. He has SMS and that accounts for his controlling and bullying attitude too.
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ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 10:51 PM)
I think that shot of Brooke is from
Endless Love
. Just stunning!
With the sexual aspect/dynamic of men and women, I can't really comment for men here and can imagine how frustrating it must for women to get NO across to them and what this means. This sexual part though, is pretty much the first and foremost base reason why men bother with women. The psychological aspect can at times be even more frustrating for men, where women in other areas are concerned.
I'd say that is why many women seek friendships with other males too, (be they gay or straight), as they find them less complicated than their female counterparts as well. This could be a bit of a generalization, yet I state it based on comments other females have made to me as well regarding their male friends.
Norman! What did you put in my tea? -
Cheeky — 3 years ago(May 29, 2022 11:13 PM)
I think that men want to be with women because of sex as well
I'm kind of over it now… not really looking for a guy anymore
If we take the time to see with the heart and not with the mind, we shall see that we are surrounded completely by angels ~ Carlos Santana -
ToastedCheese — 3 years ago(May 30, 2022 02:55 AM)
If you can get some enjoyment and fun out of men who are interested in you, don't deny yourself that freedom and pleasure. You are your own person and independent. You can always turn the tables and use them. Many women think that men are going to make them whole and complete them.
I despise the
Jerry Maguire
movie….🤮
Norman! What did you put in my tea?